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In such a blissful and dangerous territory

Angelface

Angelface

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Ugh okay... warning this might sound mushy...

But I am so in love right now.. it's been such a long time since I have had such feelings. But this guy I have met, he is totally weakening my my self control and guard. I can't stop thinking of him when he's not around.. Moments without him seem so long and empty... I read his texts over and over, I stare at his pictures all day. I get so darn nervous when I see him calling. I feel so tingly and weak when he speaks and touches me.. We have been together for a little while now.. but these feelings just keep getting stronger. He just makes me so happy. I really do love him. The first time I said I love you in so long and it felt so good and yet so terrifying...

So why am I still so scared? Isn't it normal to fall in love? I know the possibility of getting hurt is always out there... but I just want to let go and let things happen.. But it just seems so easier said than done. :sad: I can't help but wonder what is truly holding me back..
 
Be careful.
You are young and have a lot to think about when it comes to getting involved in another relationship.
 
Yes. Be careful but you also have to take the leap of faith if you want to be happy again. I know. After separating from my ex wife I found myself sitting at home starring at the walls feeling sorry for myself. And at the time I was living in my small hometown of roughly 2500 people where everyone knows everyone and nothing you do stays private.

Sure. I dated a few different girls after the break up but I never gave up on myself or on love. I'll just say one more thing. Don't settle! Don't forget who you are and what makes you happy.

When I first moved to the city I quickly realized the girl I was seeing wasn't right for me as she was trying to change basically everything about me into her ideal man. I put a stop to that and very shortly after found my wife. Sometimes you just know.

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NorthernRedneck said:
Yes. Be careful but you also have to take the leap of faith if you want to be happy again. I know. After separating from my ex wife I found myself sitting at home starring at the walls feeling sorry for myself. And at the time I was living in my small hometown of roughly 2500 people where everyone knows everyone and nothing you do stays private.

Sure. I dated a few different girls after the break up but I never gave up on myself or on love. I'll just say one more thing. Don't settle! Don't forget who you are and what makes you happy.

When I first moved to the city I quickly realized the girl I was seeing wasn't right for me as she was trying to change basically everything about me into her ideal man. I put a stop to that and very shortly after found my wife. Sometimes you just know.


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Yes! Defiantly! I think it also helps heal the heartbreak of the previous relationship in a way. It's also that way here with everyone knowing everyone, but I just try to not even care anymore but it is hard. I look forward to the day I move away from here. I'm happy to hear you found your wife. :) I think if you stay true to yourself, and your partner falls in love with who you really are, than you should have a happy relationship for the most part. ;)
 
if you haven't known this guy for years it could be mean or just safe but put his name in a computer or ask a cop friend about him.
 
TiredRetired said:
I'll be blunt, it is what I know.

When it comes to new relationships, be careful and think with your brain.
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What Butch said.


I know a young girl, probably around your age.
She has no children, and is in her first relationship with a guy she met on Farmersonly.
It's a dating site from what she told me.
She's a heavy gal and he is thin from the pictures she's shown me on her phone.

When they first met, she said it was amusing.
Then things went way too fast after that.
They had sex in a hotel, then later he told his friends on Facebook that she was a fat pig.
Yet, he still talks to her because she's got a degree in child care and has a job making money and he's on his parents farm.
He went 48 hours without contacting her.
Yet she still talks to him.,

I hear all kinds of horror stories from the younger girls I work with all the time.

Don't turn out like Ashley.
 
Thanks everyone. :smile: I do really apperciate the blunt honesty also.. Sometimes that's the best stuff to listen too wither we like it or not. :flowers:

I've known him awhile before as a friend, but last time he was living here was during a time I didin't even want to think about a relationship. He's very respectful of my space and not pushy. He did have a few bumps of trouble growing up buy has really turned his life around. I've had my fair share of poor choices as well.. :ermm: He works full time and has his own place also. He understands the fact I want things to go at a slower pace. But he really knows how to make me feel happy. :wink:

PG, that sounds like an awful story! I'm not sure why she would still talk to him. :sad: I'll admit, sometimes emotions get the better of me and I become oblivious to things such as someone taking advantage of me..But my intuition keeps telling me otherwise with him however.. Idk... I just like the way he makes me feel. It's nice to feel my heart again... as corny as that may sound.. :biggrin:
 
pirate_girl said:
What Butch said.


I know a young girl, probably around your age.
She has no children, and is in her first relationship with a guy she met on Farmersonly.
It's a dating site from what she told me.
She's a heavy gal and he is thin from the pictures she's shown me on her phone.

When they first met, she said it was amusing.
Then things went way too fast after that.
They had sex in a hotel, then later he told his friends on Facebook that she was a fat pig.
Yet, he still talks to her because she's got a degree in child care and has a job making money and he's on his parents farm.
He went 48 hours without contacting her.
Yet she still talks to him.,

I hear all kinds of horror stories from the younger girls I work with all the time.

Don't turn out like Ashley.
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sounds like my step daughter she's not over weight but has a knack for picking born loosers that just want to mooch off her the rest of the family cant under stand why I wont give the idiot the time of day.
 
It's funny, I had this conversation with my parents today and I was basically told in summary that I am thinking with everything but my brain. I understand that it's just a warning because people care.. But I need to live again.. I'm so tired if being afriad. I just don't get those vibes from him and I've been burned a lot in life. If I do get hurt again.. I guess it will be my own stupid fault.
 
It ain't love if all you can do is think about him.
You should complement each other, not dominate each other.
Sorry.
 
waybomb said:
It ain't love if all you can do is think about him.
You should complement each other, not dominate each other.
Sorry.
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No.. don't be sorry. I do appreciate honesty even if I disagree... :wink: There's a lot of wise people here who have been thru a lot of life, so I don't mind the feedback.
 
Take it slow. If it's real time will prove it out.
 
Yes, take it slow. Look who's talking. I met my husband just before Christmas. He asked me to marry him at the begining of February. We were married on September 11'th. It's been 51 years going on 52. Sometimes you just find the right person and know it immediately.
 
Leni said:
Yes, take it slow. Look who's talking. I met my husband just before Christmas. He asked me to marry him at the begining of February. We were married on September 11'th. It's been 51 years going on 52. Sometimes you just find the right person and know it immediately.
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Congrats girl!:flowers:

I had a short relationship before this, but he wanted to rush things in many ways and got frustrated with me when I would say no. :hammer: It's just different with him... I don't feel like he's being pushy at all and he knows I'm wanting to be at a slower pace. Like you said.. sometimes you just know. :wink:
 
Can't ad much more than what's already been said. On one hand yes, take it slow. Be cautious. Etc etc. On the other hand when you know you just know. I met my wife at the end of September. By Christmas she had a ring. A year and a half later we were married. Ten months later I was nearly killed. It's brought us closer together and every night before falling asleep we hold each other and tell each other how much we mean to each other. When we wake up in the morning it's back into each others arms for a few minutes before she has to get ready for work.

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NorthernRedneck said:
Can't ad much more than what's already been said. On one hand yes, take it slow. Be cautious. Etc etc. On the other hand when you know you just know. I met my wife at the end of September. By Christmas she had a ring. A year and a half later we were married. Ten months later I was nearly killed. It's brought us closer together and every night before falling asleep we hold each other and tell each other how much we mean to each other. When we wake up in the morning it's back into each others arms for a few minutes before she has to get ready for work.

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Awww.. that's how a marriage should be. :)
 
Angelface said:
I can't help but wonder what is truly holding me back..
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Natural human caution. It's a survival mechanism.
Just take things easy. How much do you know him/about him?
If need be hire a private eye to check his background.
Extreme? Maybe but as I was once told . . .

If you aren't a little bit paranoid, in this day and age. you are just not thinking.
 
I have nothing to add and no advice to offer but I did read something this week:

"The tingling of the skin that you feel when you meet someone you are really attracted to is just common sense leaving the body".

Be careful.
 
Leni said:
Yes, take it slow. Look who's talking. I met my husband just before Christmas. He asked me to marry him at the begining of February. We were married on September 11'th. It's been 51 years going on 52. Sometimes you just find the right person and know it immediately.
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OMG
Went out with my wife just before Christmas. In February we decided we found each other. Up until that point, women were toys and I was never ever getting married. Waited until May though so we could have a double marriage with her best friend.
1982
Not quite up to your time frame, but same deal.

Angel - let me tell you, I was not head over heels, but I knew she was the one.
 
Leni said:
Yes, take it slow. Look who's talking. I met my husband just before Christmas. He asked me to marry him at the begining of February. We were married on September 11'th. It's been 51 years going on 52. Sometimes you just find the right person and know it immediately.
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waybomb said:
OMG
Went out with my wife just before Christmas. In February we decided we found each other. Up until that point, women were toys and I was never ever getting married. Waited until May though so we could have a double marriage with her best friend.
1982
Not quite up to your time frame, but same deal.

Angel - let me tell you, I was not head over heels, but I knew she was the one.
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Now that's interesting! :mrgreen:

Met my wife in January, proposed Feb 14th and married in April.

This coming April will be 36 years. :w00t2:
 
Thanks everyone. Congrats to everyone on long successful marriages. :clap:


Cat, I've known him for a couple of years. He's been in trouble in the past.. but nothing recent and he's changed his life around. The fact that he was honest about everything and told me, makes me feel a little more confident. :smile:
 
So since being more open about this relationship, my brother has completely shut me out and won't talk to me.. I just don't get it.. Am I supposed to be alone my whole life? What is so wrong with someone who makes me happy? Oh well.. it just feels like I have upset a lot of people.
 
Don't sweat it girl. People do that when they don't get their way. His loss. Hopefully he'll come around eventually.

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