Sushi,
If you want to find the gal of your dreams, sitting in a bar or the house by yourself isn't going to do it.
Get out, go to places where the "Good" gals are at.
Go do volunteer work like at the Democrat party....
Join a theater group, there is lots of acting going on there already...
Join a "Save the Earth" group, there are lots of Women, that want to save the world too....
Get a cool motorcycle jacket and walk around with a cigarette hanging out of your mouth... Gals like guys that look like "trouble"
See, there is some good ideas, maybe some other members can help out too...
... grocery store, around 9pm at night, when all us single gals tend to shop (make sure her cart is full of microwave "girly/diet meals", copies of Cosmo-bottles of S. Pellegrino water and the latest new scent of any popular brand of soap or shower gel)
Try the laundry-mat. When an intresting female comes in, look confused and ask her how to work the machine.
Oh yea, don't forget to take your dirty clothes with you.
I had to chuckle at these.
I've been married 35 years so I don't need the moves now, but reading these reminded me I met my wife at a do-gooder lecture/coffee hour after church! (Her church, but compatible with the one I was raised in.) She told me she was back home temporarily, just about to go overseas on a volunteer project. I thought 'darn, that one got away'. A month later she phoned me, she had decided to stay a while. The rest is history...
Before I met my wife, BTDT with the intended results, for those strategies I quoted. One I didn't see was Little Sister used to pimp me to her lonesome friends. But after a while I discovered each one of them turned out to be overwhelmed with Issues - probably because that pool of dateable women were all studying psychology. But the stages of discovery were fun!
Sushi, the gorgeous bartender got hired there because of all the positives you described. That's her job, to look gorgeous. She's not doing it for you. Admire her, don't fall for her. (don't ask...)
Theater-group women can be interesting. Some can be quite direct in searching for a straight man. Just volunteer for some rudimentary backstage work, running the spotlight or something, and you are an instant hero.
Laundromat Woman can be new to the area and doesn't know anybody. Until she met you!
I can only think of one Grocery Woman story, but it was so strange I'll post it for your amusement. This was in Berkeley where everyone is early 20's and came there from elsewhere, unlike a normal community. It was 9pm and I was reading a magazine at the rack in Safeway, alongside a few other kids. I realized a real cutie was reading over my shoulder so I backed up ever so slightly, she wrapped herself around me ever so subtly. But every time I would look around to become acquainted she would jump back and do a 'don't look at me' feminist glare. We repeated this ritual several times over a half hour, far warmer and closer each time. Then her boyfriend called her name before coming into view and Ms. cutie jumped back. Later I mentioned this to a friend, and he said he had heard of her and her strange moves before. I just happened to be her pick that evening to warm her up for her boyfriend. Some kind of excitement/risk fetish. Whatever. 40 years later and I still remember her braless softness and her warm breath in my ear. Berkeley in the early 60's was a magic place. I like to think we were creating the legends that drew all the kids to come to the Bay Area a couple of years later.
Political campaigns in my experience are full of the sort of predatory women you don't want to mess with. I was married by the time I saw that environment. But the type I met, I would have run from if I were single. Bored Rich Doctor's Wife, Recent and Lonely Widow, the (married) gal who eventually turned political visibility into an appointed executive job. What all those women have in common is that their starry-eyed attention is focused on Mister Big, not on their co-workers. Of course Monica Lewinsky is the all time classic upwardly mobile political hack. Not much mileage there unless you are the candidate.
Sushi, I hope everyones tips are helping. Now get out there where there are some real women!
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I can think of something. 
