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What makes men cheat?
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Trakternut
Active member
AW, it really is of no consequence that this thread was brought out in the open.
It's good that both goils and fellers get to share their viewpoints on this subject.
Might bring some balance to how some folks are thinking on this topic.
I noted the word chance in reference to putting men on a pedestal. I don't wanna be at no woman's feet, neither, unless I'm lookin' up her skir..........oh shoot! I mean........I believe men and women are equal in a relationship.
Both parties should live as if they want to qualify for the pedestal.
PG, I'm not intending to pick your statements apart. You've spoken your opinions and shared how you feel. You hold some very valid points. Bob does, also, speak for a faction of the male population that, sometimes, just needs a good piece of............well, you know.
Been there, done that. Don't gotta to lookin' no more.
Anyway, this topic has been interesting. I'll read the rest of the posts, tomorrow. It's nighty-night time for Tnutz.
It's good that both goils and fellers get to share their viewpoints on this subject.
Might bring some balance to how some folks are thinking on this topic.
I noted the word chance in reference to putting men on a pedestal. I don't wanna be at no woman's feet, neither, unless I'm lookin' up her skir..........oh shoot! I mean........I believe men and women are equal in a relationship.
Both parties should live as if they want to qualify for the pedestal.
PG, I'm not intending to pick your statements apart. You've spoken your opinions and shared how you feel. You hold some very valid points. Bob does, also, speak for a faction of the male population that, sometimes, just needs a good piece of............well, you know.
Been there, done that. Don't gotta to lookin' no more.Anyway, this topic has been interesting. I'll read the rest of the posts, tomorrow. It's nighty-night time for Tnutz.
That's all I intended to do.
I'm out of this thread since it's become a circus sideshow now.
American Woman
Banned
I wrestled with the idea of "picking on the guys" because the title was why do MEN cheat? not men and women. But got to thinking that it was a good thing that the men aren't being bashed for a change, and it would be a nice pat on the back for y'all......so I changed my mind.
To honest with ya.....I feel like more women cheat than men.
Bobcat
Je Suis Charlie Hebdo
American Woman
Banned
Redneck pat's me on the back enough 
Snowcat Operations
Active member
What makes men cheat? Thats easy. Our Dick. Its his fault!
DaveNay
Klaatu barada nikto
Women are why I don't cheat. I can barely handle one woman in my life, why the hell would I want another one (or more?!?!)My assumption was, if there were no women period, then men would not cheat. Now to be correct, because women exist men do cheat......
Very easy to figure the correct answer....WOMEN!!!!!
rback33
Hangin in Tornado Alley
Women are why I don't cheat. I can barely handle one woman in my life, why the hell would I want another one (or more?!?!)
What HE said... I have NEVER understood polygamy....
American Woman
Banned
Yup....That's where the brains are
My assumption was, if there were no women period, then men would not cheat. Now to be correct, because women exist men do cheat......
Very easy to figure the correct answer....WOMEN!!!!!
I'm beginning to smell fear in the airWomen are why I don't cheat. I can barely handle one woman in my life, why the hell would I want another one (or more?!?!)
cowgirl
Silver Member
Men and women cheat because they think "the grass is greener on the other side". People get bored with there life and miss the feeling of being in a new relationship. In a new relationship you can be someone elas, and your the center of attention. AND yes there usually is a lot of SEX!
I think for each person the reason is different, unless they are the player type. My opinion stated above is more referencing the non-player type people.
I think for each person the reason is different, unless they are the player type. My opinion stated above is more referencing the non-player type people.
Trakternut
Active member
I know of a case where the fella was feeling neglected by his wife. Not sexually, but emotionally. She wasn't being the companion and friend he's hoped she would be. So, he stepped out on her. His "fling" was caring, sympathatic to him, and boosted his sagging ego. The sexual satisfaction he got was pretty much icing on a cake. It was also, as it came out in counseling sessions, a cry to his wife to pay attention to him, a wake up call, if you will.
He and his wife are still together, he no longer entertains girlfriends. To her credit, his wife realized where she went wrong and is taking steps to correct it, he is doing the same. The future looks good for the both of them....together!
He and his wife are still together, he no longer entertains girlfriends. To her credit, his wife realized where she went wrong and is taking steps to correct it, he is doing the same. The future looks good for the both of them....together!
thcri
Gone But Not Forgotten
That is more common than one thinks. It isn't just about sex all the time.
Yeah, in this day and age.. far too many women don't spend enough time with their man I'd say, much less their kids, etc..
It's no wonder things go belly-up in marriages.
It's all about something else and not the family unit, time spent talking and doing things that matter.
rback33
Hangin in Tornado Alley
I will be the devils advocate... I wonder what he did that aided in her choosing to neglect him emotionally? I will not believe it was all her fault (you have not stated it, just making my position known.)
Bobcat
Je Suis Charlie Hebdo
I still say it's about sex. The emotional thing is just on the periphery. I know there's a few guys on this forum that have claimed emotional this/that with their wives and sought solace from a female member by sending explicit pictures of themselves. Maybe they can explain how this helped their feelings of emotional neglect from their wives? If it weren't about sex, you'd just hang out with your golf/hunting/fishing buddies for a little companionship, no?
Not talking about anyone who's posted here so far, they appear to be avoiding this thread.
There are pictures.
Not talking about anyone who's posted here so far, they appear to be avoiding this thread.
There are pictures.
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American Woman
Banned
There are the exceptional few that are about the sex male or female....Personaly I think they are shallow people. But for the most part I think it's being in the wrong place at the wrong time. If your weak then don't be caught dead with the one person that could sway you.
If a marriage is strong enough on both fronts.. there is nothing in this world that could cause the man OR the woman to cheat.
American Woman
Banned
Yeah, This makes since....hang out with a buddy if your lonely....But seriously......I'm a female,I have been the divorced female for 8 years before I married Redneck, now I'm the married female for 16 years....There are single women and men out there that DO NOT respect a marriage. In fact they get off on the conquer after teasing a married man or woman. Then once they win....they don't especially want to wake up with that person the next morning, and unfortunately neither does the jilted mate. after all that...it takes two to tease, so they both have whatscoming to them.
This has gone on for YEARS...it's nothing new. Poor baby...."my wife doesn't understand me, or we have no relationship, or "she don't care, because we don't sleep together anymore" I have heard this line a LOT when I was single. How naive, or stupid can a person be to think they were the answer for happiness? What ever the excuse he or she has.....as far as I'm concerned if I had gotten in the middle of that kind of duo I would have deserved what I got for not respecting the marriage.
Bobcat
Je Suis Charlie Hebdo
You seem to be trying to minimize the guilt of the married person. They ARE the most at fault, though both are wrong. THEY are the ones who swore to God (in the case of a religious wedding) that they would be faithful, not the single person. Anyway, my point is still that it's about sex. These guys weren't looking for emotional support by sending such pictures/videos. I don't know of anyone (man) who's gone to another woman just to 'talk'. It always ends up in the same place because that was always the destination.
Again, if a married person is happy enough in their union, nothing can sway them.
I know far more MARRIED people who don't respect their OWN ****ing marriages, which takes us back to the thread topic.
Don't put the damn blame on single people tempting marrieds, that's not always the name of the game.
American Woman
Banned
No not all am I minimizing the guilt of the husband or the wife. You are so right just now. It is about the sex when it's pictures and such. It's all about a tease on both parts. If they need emotional support from the opposite sex then it better be a sister or mother if it's Redneck
I'm too close too a situation that started out just like you are talking about because he was "lonely" (*&^%) His life, his wife of 35 years life, and three grown kids are ruined.
American Woman
Banned
yup your right....it takes TWO. Neither are innocent....Again, if a married person is happy enough in their union, nothing can sway them.
I know far more MARRIED people who don't respect their OWN ****ing marriages, which takes us back to the thread topic.
Don't put the damn blame on single people tempting marrieds, that's not always the name of the game.
American Woman
Banned
Well if we are talking about a marriage falling apart because of a cheat...then it's taking more than two people not respecting a marriage to do that. Somebody else always gets hurt, and it's usually the one in the dark.
When I first read this "survey" I thought "see, not all men are bad"
But now It's looking like if you are married and have an argument with your spouse then you should be very afraid of them cheating because there were some misunderstandings in the marriage. A single person thinks it's ok to cheat with a married person, because the married person wasn't happy anyway, and the married person is having a pitty party.
I'm beginning to think Bob was right...it's the sex...
Trakternut
Active member
Bob is right...............but, as I said before, it's not always just for sex. The fella I was referring to has a lot of interests that his wife doesn't share. They worked different hours. She, at night, he on a day shift. She could be awake for things she wanted to do, but not for him. In this case, it was pure loneliness. There's a certain..........."something" about the emotional attachment of a member of the opposite sex that one doesn't get from his mother or sister, or her father or brother. It doesn't always start off as a quest to get into their "lover's" pants. It can, and does, often end up that way though.