Not sure were to begin...
My mother in law has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and has had a small stroke as well. We know she means well, but calls at all hours in the night, having to spend an hour explaining something and an hour later she has no idea what you explained to her. Yet she can fool you with a short conversation, that may make sense.. Today we are placing her in a memory care unit in a local nursing home..
Last Thursday night I received a call from my father who was outside his car on the ground as he had fallen, and could not seem to get up. It was 6 degrees out then, and I am 20 minutes away. Called 911 and since he was in the parking lot of the Condominium he lives in, I also called a friend who lives there and had him go to my father as well. EMT's checked him over, after he had walked inside to his unit. They found nothing wrong with him, and he did not go to ER. Maybe he should have. The next day he called me and wanted me to come and get his car and take it to the farm. He says it will take to much money to get it in shape and he wasn't going to spend it on his car. I think he wanted it gone to end any temptation for him to drive anymore.
Yesterday I took him to the hospital for a monthly blood test. I can see immediately his mobility is a lot worse since his fall. This is not good as he lives by himself. Obviously he is sandbagging his condition. His condo is cluttered as if he is not able to put things away, and do normal chores around his unit. Yet he insists his fall did not hurt him...
As some of you know I am a snow cat owner and in a few weeks we will be holding our annual event in Michigan. This year I may have to pass on my favorite winter event. To much time away from those I love, especially my father. Mom passed in 2011, and he is all alone excepting for my family.
This situation could last for some time. Assisted living is being looked into for my Dad.
This is how it is when the generations change. This is what we do to in some way pay back our parents for a life time of help and education they have given us. We do this out of our love and respect for those who came before us. We do this out of endless love for our parents.
Many here have experienced these changes in life and know what I am going through. We all have our moment when it is our turn to pick up the reins and do what is necessary to ease the passage of a loved one.
Today it is my turn.
My mother in law has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and has had a small stroke as well. We know she means well, but calls at all hours in the night, having to spend an hour explaining something and an hour later she has no idea what you explained to her. Yet she can fool you with a short conversation, that may make sense.. Today we are placing her in a memory care unit in a local nursing home..
Last Thursday night I received a call from my father who was outside his car on the ground as he had fallen, and could not seem to get up. It was 6 degrees out then, and I am 20 minutes away. Called 911 and since he was in the parking lot of the Condominium he lives in, I also called a friend who lives there and had him go to my father as well. EMT's checked him over, after he had walked inside to his unit. They found nothing wrong with him, and he did not go to ER. Maybe he should have. The next day he called me and wanted me to come and get his car and take it to the farm. He says it will take to much money to get it in shape and he wasn't going to spend it on his car. I think he wanted it gone to end any temptation for him to drive anymore.
Yesterday I took him to the hospital for a monthly blood test. I can see immediately his mobility is a lot worse since his fall. This is not good as he lives by himself. Obviously he is sandbagging his condition. His condo is cluttered as if he is not able to put things away, and do normal chores around his unit. Yet he insists his fall did not hurt him...
As some of you know I am a snow cat owner and in a few weeks we will be holding our annual event in Michigan. This year I may have to pass on my favorite winter event. To much time away from those I love, especially my father. Mom passed in 2011, and he is all alone excepting for my family.
This situation could last for some time. Assisted living is being looked into for my Dad.
This is how it is when the generations change. This is what we do to in some way pay back our parents for a life time of help and education they have given us. We do this out of our love and respect for those who came before us. We do this out of endless love for our parents.
Many here have experienced these changes in life and know what I am going through. We all have our moment when it is our turn to pick up the reins and do what is necessary to ease the passage of a loved one.
Today it is my turn.
