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I did something horrible today.. :(

Angelface

Angelface

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My man left for work and he left his Facebook open on the computer. I didn't know until I went on and seen that he forgot to log off. So what did I do? I go thru all his private messages and read them... Now I feel awful. I have never felt insecure enough to do such thing. But I did... and there was nothing outside of every day teasing of co workers who some happen to be female.. not sure about that either.

Ugh... what's wrong with me? I know he is terribly insecure about other males around me and can sometimes be over protective, so not sure if he has done the same thing. But he often asks me who is texting me every time he hears my phone go off. :( Since when did we have such lack of trust? If anything our relationship has really improved.
 
Me and my wife have never had passwords on anything unless it is a must and even then we use the same passwords...everything is open to us.

Why feel guilty,if there is nothing to hide you only read the truth.

chill have a cold one.

I am proud to say this has worked for the fact this week we celebrate 19 years of marriage and 25 years of being together.
 
The missus and I have no secrets. I have no problem with her browsing through my Facebook. Heck. The first week I was in ICU at the hospital she held onto my phone and messaged anyone who needed messaging. I had no problem with that.

So you have to ask yourself what is worth hiding from him or him hiding from you. If you both can't be trusting enough of each other to allow each other to read the other person's Facebook then there's a problem somewhere.
 
blake knows my passes, as well. i've got his, too. why hide 'em, i say~ i'm not afraid to have him see if i research stuff or look at adult stuff. i'm a grown woman. that is normal & is so nothing to fret over, usually, when a person you love is using a device you have
 
Tom and I know what the other is doing all of the time. He hates the computer so I set his passwords. We will be celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary in September.

There has to be trust in a relationship. Keep in mind that I was professional bellydancer for ten years. I danced mostly at private parties. The only time he went with me was once when I asked him to.
 
I'm with everybody else. Married almost 40-years and she knows everything, including all my passwords. She can't keep them straight but that's OK. She can usually get there by a process of elimination.
 
EastTexFrank said:
I'm with everybody else. Married almost 40-years and she knows everything, including all my passwords. She can't keep them straight but that's OK. She can usually get there by a process of elimination.
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Same here Frank. Married 40 years and I have to help the gorgeous Mrs TR on passwords all the time. We share the same emails, NO FacelessBook and we don't tweet or twat or whatever that is either. We're old fashioned. We use the telephone most of the time when we want to talk to someone.
 
Sounds like most of you have very trusting and long term relationships. So congrats of the many years!!! :) I hope to be there someday... lol. I don't know, just seems like now a days everything is portrayed as a huge issue or excuse to cause drama in a relationship. Reality TV shows to blame???? I'm not sure entirely, but I know I am guilty of watching a few of them. :( Also we both came from horrible relationships were we where both cheated on and hurt. That's not to say no one else has, or is it right to bring that into our current relationship, but sometimes you just get nervous....
 
I understand where you are. My wife and I were both there as well. Her ex assaulted her just before they split. My ex cheated and basically blew through a rather large insurance settlement of mine before I smartened up and sent her to the curb. So you're right. We all have our issues from the past that we bring in to a new relationship. The trick is finding a way to leave it in the past and starting fresh. You have to find a way to be 100% committed to making it work and being focused on the here and now and to making it work. Don't forget the past but find a way to learn what you can from it in order to move on.
 
Angelface said:
My man left for work and he left his Facebook open on the computer. I didn't know until I went on and seen that he forgot to log off. So what did I do? I go thru all his private messages and read them... Now I feel awful. I have never felt insecure enough to do such thing. But I did... and there was nothing outside of every day teasing of co workers who some happen to be female.. not sure about that either.

Ugh... what's wrong with me? I know he is terribly insecure about other males around me and can sometimes be over protective, so not sure if he has done the same thing. But he often asks me who is texting me every time he hears my phone go off. :( Since when did we have such lack of trust? If anything our relationship has really improved.
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Do you read other peoples diary's too? :whistling:

OK, so you feel bad, but let's look at this logically, if he did have something to hide I'm sure he would have been careful as to leaving his computer on a page that anyone could read. Apparently he is not afraid for you to see what he says on-line, so stop beating yourself up.
 
MrLiberty said:
Do you read other peoples diary's too? :whistling:

OK, so you feel bad, but let's look at this logically, if he did have something to hide I'm sure he would have been careful as to leaving his computer on a page that anyone could read. Apparently he is not afraid for you to see what he says on-line, so stop beating yourself up.
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Of course on the other hand this might have been a test.........:whistling: :yum::yum:
 
Angelface said:
My man left for work and he left his Facebook open on the computer. I didn't know until I went on and seen that he forgot to log off. So what did I do? I go thru all his private messages and read them...

Ugh... what's wrong with me? I know he is terribly insecure about other males around me and can sometimes be over protective, so not sure if he has done the same thing. But he often asks me who is texting me every time he hears my phone go off. Since when did we have such lack of trust? If anything our relationship has really improved.
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You did what any woman in a relationship would do, as far as I am concerned.

Nothing is wrong with you or him. If the trust is there, this is much ado about nothing.


 
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