Fucking living with a twat

[Galvatron]

OK I'm in a relationship with a mad woman that I love dearly, why do I love her? Simple she makes me smile and feel alive.

Problem is she is such a arse, you can't talk serious as she just opens her potty mouth and bang no way you can finish what you started as she just distracts me by flashing.

Point is new year new start, I love her more than I can explain but should I just walk another new path or ride out the storm?

As you all know the past few years were tough, I have my own place to go to,I'm not changing who I am and I respect her enough for her not to change.

Highs... Amazing mother, friend, lover, cook, lover, lover, lover, creative like me, free spirit, my jayne in short.

Lows... Potty mouth, shouts don't talk, stubborn, annoying, messy, hoarder, smokes in the car, pisses me off daily

I love her more than any woman ever, what should I do?

 

[FrancSevin]

OK I'm in a relationship with a mad woman that I love dearly, why do I love her? Simple she makes me smile and feel alive.

Problem is she is such a arse, you can't talk serious as she just opens her potty mouth and bang no way you can finish what you started as she just distracts me by flashing.

Point is new year new start, I love her more than I can explain but should I just walk another new path or ride out the storm?

As you all know the past few years were tough, I have my own place to go to,I'm not changing who I am and I respect her enough for her not to change.

Highs... Amazing mother, friend, lover, cook, lover, lover, lover, creative like me, free spirit, my jayne in short.

Lows... Potty mouth, shouts don't talk, stubborn, annoying, messy, hoarder, smokes in the car, pisses me off daily

I love her more than any woman ever, what should I do?

We end up in life witht eh choices we make. That's how life works.

But it is virtually impossible to "Chose" a perfect relationship. That has to be made, minute by minute, day by day. The question I believe you are asking is this, "did I chose the right material with which to build a lifelong relationship, or am are you having trouble with the challenges of construction?"

A creative person can bring beauty out of most any medium. Jus' sayin.'

 

[Bamby]

Though I can't specifically answer your questions, I'd like you to both carefully listen to this song.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAdi9rAVZuM"]Travis Tritt- Foolish Pride - YouTube[/ame]

Maybe then drop the pride and discuss what's burning your bridges.

 

[NorthernRedneck]

There's no perfect girl. Only the one perfect for you. Lord knows I went through a few after my divorce before I found the right one for me. Don't settle for the one you can live with. Don't stop searching till you find the one you can't live without.

Canadian eh!!!

 

[pirate_girl]

There's no perfect girl. Only the one perfect for you. Lord knows I went through a few after my divorce before I found the right one for me. Don't settle for the one you can live with. Don't stop searching till you find the one you can't live without.

Canadian eh!!!

I have 2 sons who would give you a big thumbs up for that, Brian.


Galv, both my boys have now gone through 2 bad relationships.
They each found "the woman".
Both caring, giving, great housekeepers, love my granddaughters like their own,intelligent and successful in their own right.

I wish you luck.
Really, I do.

 

[Galvatron]

I don't want to change her but is there a way I can get her to shut the fuck up and listen with no boods out?

 

[pirate_girl]

I don't want to change her but is there a way I can get her to shut the fuck up and listen with no boods out?

Well if your solution at all is wanting /telling a woman to "shut the fuck up", you ain't gonna get too far.
By wanting her silenced, you want to change her.
Bad move.

 

[Galvatron]

My life lacks sense of humour, sadly, I will seek elsewhere

 

[FrancSevin]

I don't want to change her but is there a way I can get her to shut the fuck up and listen with no boods out?

It has been my experience that approach is certain disaster. You will lose every argument after and likely lose her.

Perhaps instead of complaining about what makes you mad, try letting her know what makes you happy by saying the same thing as a request.
A softer approach lets her retain her dignity and neither of you have to come back from anger. Successful relationships are based, at least in my view, on a commitment to the other person's happiness, at all costs. If it costs too much then the relationship was doomed from the beginning.


Risky? Yes. What you may well find out is whether or not YOU cost HER too much. If so, I fear not much can be done for your happiness with her without Booze or Pharmaceutical assistance.

You've been there before. Yeah, not approved.

 

[NorthernRedneck]

Wise words

Canadian eh!!!

 

[Danang Sailor]

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another is essential to your own." -- Robert A. Heinlein

I first read those words more than 50 years ago; they seemed right then and experience over the years has shown they absolutely are. If that is not what you have, a serious evaluation of your situation would seem to be in order.

 

[Zussman]

I also had different questions when I was dating my girlfriend. And so I parted with her and did not know what to do. I was depressed and didn't know what to do, how to live on. I read a lot of information on the Internet, how to get over a breakup, and so on. And so I came across this site in Google https://breakupangels.com/why-you-should-never-be-ashamed-get-divorce/ I read a lot of interesting articles on my topic there, and it became much easier for me, and now I feel much better.

 

[FrancSevin]

I also had different questions when I was dating my girlfriend. And so I parted with her and did not know what to do. I was depressed and didn't know what to do, how to live on. I read a lot of information on the Internet, how to get over a breakup, and so on. And so I came across this site in Google https://breakupangels.com/why-you-should-never-be-ashamed-get-divorce/ I read a lot of interesting articles on my topic there, and it became much easier for me, and now I feel much better.

The internet is a boon for people caught in the dilemmic trauma of a love/hate relationship. First, it can help you define the problem. Absolutely necessary to know if you truly want a solution.
Secondly, there are resources to help you "deal' with the issues both inwardly and with your partner. And finally, there are solutions to help you when your partner does not respond well or refuses to acknowledge their part in the problem.

There are a lot of quacks out there giving bad advice. From "expert" coaching guys who will tell you if he/she cheats just dump him/her, to real experts who can help you heal yourself and then work to heal your relationship. Although I have been with my wife for 54 years, there have been issues. There would be with any couple.

There is no universal truth or panacea to a blissful relationship. Personal relationships are hard work. And values, boundaries, expectations change. Be ready and prepared to make course corrections in your travels with a life partner.

That said. I have learned to believe outside help is essential

I have come to rely on these three sources

Ester Perel

Intimavy - Search Videos

www.bing.com

Teal Swan

Intimavy - Search Videos

www.bing.com

Doctor Doug Weiss.

Married and Alone - Search Videos

www.bing.com

I have listed only one U-tube from each but all have an extensive series of help videos for couples. What I did list are the ones that gave me the original encouragements and tools to understand and repair the breaches in my relationship with my wife of 53 years. It has taken me over two years to effect a positive change but their advice was key.

At the moment, we are incredibly happy together. And, I mean newly wed happy. But I now know, happily ever after is a Hollywood myth. The effort, therefore, never ceases.

 

[Kittypie]

Damn! You guys remind me of pot meet kettle!