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m1west

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So a couple weeks back I had a memorial weekend party. My son, daughter, a friend and wife and step sons parents and siblings. The party went great, I bought a whole Ribeye loin, corn on the cob, salads etc. My daughter brought a pasta salad and the in laws brought the wife a vase with a flower and some popsicles. I had horseshoes and knife and ax throwing set up for activities plus everyone liked hanging out with the horses. The problem came up when the party was over. I was outside, the wife said later that walked in on the sons girlfriends family raiding the leftovers, in the drawers and cupboards and refrigerator. She said that when she walked in they suddenly looked like they got caught and quickly put the food they took in a bag. The wife didn't say anything to them but I have never experienced this before and not sue how to proceed with them. It was the first time we ever met them. Is this normal nowadays? Did I miss a memo or something. Give me your opinions on this.
 
Im trying to think positive, like the food was good and they were completing by taking it all when they left or they consider everyone family even though they just met you. Besides that I didn't have any problem. the dad was nice, played horseshoes with us, talked politics and they are conservative. It really tweaked the wife more than me. Im at a loss for a reason. Has anyone else experienced this?
 
Seems like the girlfriend's family has a different "value set" than your family. That can lead to long term problems but sometimes the kids learn what the parents don't. Be cautiously optimistic and hope the parents have not had much influence on your son's girlfriend's values.
 
It is common when a family only thinks about themselves and thinks it is them against the rest of the world. Anyone marrying into a family such as that is in for a rough life.
 
First time meeting this family and they are caught getting out leftovers and packing them to take with them. Outrageous. I've never ever heard of such behavior.
I was at a bday party for a friend last weeekend and they offered the leftovers to any of the guest who wanted them since they were flying out Monday to Portland. Nice of them but we passed on the leftovers. Others might have taken some. I've seen hosts offer leftovers plenty of times and when that happens they take the leftovers before they are put away. To get out the put away leftovers seems like such a huge faux pas.
Good luck to your son.
Was your sons GF part of the group getting the leftovers? Is there a chance your son offered up the leftovers if he thought you all had more than you would eat and rather than see them go to waste offer them up.
 
Doc said:
First time meeting this family and they are caught getting out leftovers and packing them to take with them. Outrageous. I've never ever heard of such behavior.
I was at a bday party for a friend last weeekend and they offered the leftovers to any of the guest who wanted them since they were flying out Monday to Portland. Nice of them but we passed on the leftovers. Others might have taken some. I've seen hosts offer leftovers plenty of times and when that happens they take the leftovers before they are put away. To get out the put away leftovers seems like such a huge faux pas.
Good luck to your son.
Was your sons GF part of the group getting the leftovers? Is there a chance your son offered up the leftovers if he thought you all had more than you would eat and rather than see them go to waste offer them up.
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I thought about someone telling them to, but everyone was already gone when it took place as they were the last out the door. It was the mom and a 14 year old daughter, dad was outside with me. In any case for the sake of the kids relationship I am going to try to remain optimistic. If and when they invite us to there place, I can see how that goes. It might be like get whatever you want with them and thats how they are?? Other than that I found them to be pleasant.
 
I've seen "the Moochers" appear at the end of a potluck christmas dinner at work , they have no shame. Never in someone's home after a meal....it's unbelievable....., may have to count the silverware . Your young lad better keep his eyes open .
 
Thanks for the input, I don't plan on inviting them again until if and when they invite us to there home. I hope they are just eccentric and are not the folks they appear to be.
 
m1west said:
Thanks for the input, I don't plan on inviting them again until if and when they invite us to there home. I hope they are just eccentric and are not the folks they appear to be.
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or the son reacting to "oh it was all so good . . ." invited them to take / enjoy the left overs . . .
rarely are things as they seem . . . .
 
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