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Who undresses whom?

Gunsrus

Gunsrus

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Now, if this question is too personal or private, I will respectfully refrain from asking any like it. I'd like to know because I'm a very sensitive person. I'm very conscious that I could hurt a woman because I've got twice her strength and because women's feelings can be somewhat easier to hurt. I'll go first and answer the question, just to show you folks I mean what I say.

When it comes to sex, I'd much rather my partner undress herself and I undress myself. I've seen the man undressing the woman and vice versa, but in my case I wouldn't want to do it because undoing what my partner or wife wears would make me feel like I'm not respecting her private space.

That's just my take on things. May I ask you all for your views on this subject?
 
There's certain lines I don't cross nor want anyone else crossing mine. What happens in our bedroom is for the rest of the world to wonder about.
Mike
 
Gunsrus said:
...I've seen the man undressing the woman and vice versa, but in my case I wouldn't want to do it because undoing what my partner or wife wears would make me feel like I'm not respecting her private space.

That's just my take on things. May I ask you all for your views on this subject?
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Considering what comes next, I find this idea a bit incongruous, to say the least. Do you formalize a contract regarding what
each of you is allowed to do as the evening progresses?
 
I'd hate to get fried chicken grease or gun oil on her brassiere or tong .............. :)
 
leadarrows said:
You let your woman wear cloths?
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No, no, I wouldn't. Sorry, that's not what I meant and I don't have a woman yet.

What I really mean to say that I'd prefer it if she undressed herself and i undressed myself. I don't know if others do this to let the other partner get ready for sex independently or if one partner undresses the other to make sex more exciting. I'm just letting you know how I'd like it.

mla2ofus said:
There's certain lines I don't cross nor want anyone else crossing mine. What happens in our bedroom is for the rest of the world to wonder about.
Mike
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Thanks for your honesty. I respect your viewpoint for three reasons:

a) You make a stand for your privacy. That shows integrity.

b) You respect the privacy of others. That shows decency.

c) You don't mind the idea of others thinking to themselves about what you and your wife get up to behind closed doors. That shows understanding of men and women's tendency to fantasize.


Danang Sailor said:
Considering what comes next, I find this idea a bit incongruous, to say the least. Do you formalize a contract regarding what
each of you is allowed to do as the evening progresses?
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Haha, I see where you're going with this. No, I wouldn't do such a thing. I mean, a man holds down a woman under him, or a man lets a women do the same or straddle him, so no contract is needed and the private space of both is going to be shared anyway.

A better question is what method is preferred between men and women undressing each other, or doing it themselves separately. We're all different, so I don't reckon everyone is going to use one way or the other.
 
umm... sometimes my husband will just literally, and I mean literally just rip my clothes off with all his force in the heat of the moment. :ermm: I mean it sucks cause like sometimes I really like what I was wearing, but umm well... I kinda like it in a umm weird way.:unsure: Plus he buys me new clothes as a result so I win in a lot of ways. haha haha:yum:
 
Angelface said:
umm... sometimes my husband will just literally, and I mean literally just rip my clothes off with all his force in the heat of the moment. :ermm: I mean it sucks cause like sometimes I really like what I was wearing, but umm well... I kinda like it in a umm weird way.:unsure: Plus he buys me new clothes as a result so I win in a lot of ways. haha haha:yum:
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Well, I'm a little overpowered by this, but, since you tell it in a very open way and you show no signs of being hurt by your husband's actions, I guess I can understand what he does from an almost ape like standpoint. At least he does make up to you by buying new clothes. Have you ever asked him why he takes this approach?
 
Gunsrus said:
Well, I'm a little overpowered by this, but, since you tell it in a very open way and you show no signs of being hurt by your husband's actions, I guess I can understand what he does from an almost ape like standpoint. At least he does make up to you by buying new clothes. Have you ever asked him why he takes this approach?
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Well. .. he kinda has a kink for it and I have my own quricks.. It's really hard to explain since it's kinda private and emberaassing. Lol
 
Angelface said:
Well. .. he kinda has a kink for it and I have my own quricks.. It's really hard to explain since it's kinda private and emberaassing. Lol
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No problem, Angelface. Tell us only as much as you want to, no more. Any details you want to keep private are yours to do with as you see fit. I happen to not be a very private person, as I will explain on another thread.

On this one, I'd like to know if there is a consensus, or if in one couple, the man undresses the woman and then the woman the man and in another, they undress themselves personally.

Is it the case that either practice varies from person to person?
 
Gunsrus said:
No problem, Angelface. Tell us only as much as you want to, no more. Any details you want to keep private are yours to do with as you see fit. I happen to not be a very private person, as I will explain on another thread.

On this one, I'd like to know if there is a consensus, or if in one couple, the man undresses the woman and then the woman the man and in another, they undress themselves personally.

Is it the case that either practice varies from person to person?
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Honestly I am a very open person as well. Why hold back on thoughts and feelings that make us to be the person we are? Anyways to be honest, I don't care if who undresses who or if we do it ourselves. It also depends on the intensity of the moment. But to get to the point... if it's really going good... you don't even remember or care how you got undressed. Lol :)
 
When I was younger, a lot younger, undressing each other was sensual, a form of foreplay, now we're old and know what's under the wrapping..... Still, there are times!
 
D1005 said:
When I was younger, a lot younger, undressing each other was sensual, a form of foreplay, now we're old and know what's under the wrapping..... Still, there are times!
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Personally, I like the redneck form of foreplay, "Get naked and get in the truck!". :yum:
 
I like it when my wife is so horned up that she starts pulling my clothes off.. and vice versa.. Im weird I guess.. because I like to leave some of her clothes on too.. I can't wait sometimes.. I like when she is wearing heels and keeps em on.. or if she has thigh highs on.. etc

Not sure what you are all wrapped up about.. just let shit happen.
 
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