Should I stay or leave?

[NatalieG]

I am in a long-distance relationship with someone that is a thousand miles apart. We came from different timezone yet manage to work it out all these years. We enjoyed each other's company when we are physically together and virtually. We spent time watching movies/cooking and doing other things together virtually (Facetime). We love each other. He always says that it surprises him that I have good qualities that he never finds with anyone. He always makes me feel loved and cared for despite our distance. At times we can do read and feel each other's thoughts / feelings. One day (on his birthday) he suddenly said, his mom would be so proud of me, that I'm everything that she (his mom) would love to be her daughter-in-law and everything I am as his love. It was a special moment. He is not the type of man that always says the word "i love you" . He says it in unexpected moments, like all of a sudden. We have a connection. We have a relationship. We have a special bond as he says.

However, Recently, I saw a photo of him and a woman. I confronted him about it. I asked him who is she. He didn't answer me who is she, who is she in his life. He said that it's not what I think it is. He mentioned helping someone and he didn't, cannot elaborate it more for now. He said that eventually, this day will come. He said that he will tell me about it in time but not now. I've asked if he loves the person and he answered me "no". He is not romantically involved. I've asked if they have a kid, he said no. I've asked if he's married to the person, he didn't answer me yes or no. He said 1 question will lead to another and he will tell me in time. He told me that it's my decision, to stay or leave. If I would be comfortable in this situation now. He kept saying that he will tell me in time. I'm so confused. I feel betrayed. I really don't know. I love him and I know he loves me. I don't want to lose him. Should I stay, should I leave, should we stop communicating first and think about it.

 

[Gary O']

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I am in a long-distance relationship with someone that is a thousand miles apart.

Should I stay or leave?​

Well, I'm confused

Leave to where, Mars?

Stay where, a thousand miles away?

Yer a thousand miles away from a guy that can't give a straight answer?
Yer the dream 'other woman'
My money is on him being married

 

[Kittypie]

Yes! Let him know you will cut all contacts with him because you are not comfortable with the situation.

 

[ahvccenter]

Yes you need to be reconsider about your relationship ..

 

[TRUMP FOREVER]

I am in a long-distance relationship with someone that is a thousand miles apart. We came from different timezone yet manage to work it out all these years. We enjoyed each other's company when we are physically together and virtually. We spent time watching movies/cooking and doing other things together virtually (Facetime). We love each other. He always says that it surprises him that I have good qualities that he never finds with anyone. He always makes me feel loved and cared for despite our distance. At times we can do read and feel each other's thoughts / feelings. One day (on his birthday) he suddenly said, his mom would be so proud of me, that I'm everything that she (his mom) would love to be her daughter-in-law and everything I am as his love. It was a special moment. He is not the type of man that always says the word "i love you" . He says it in unexpected moments, like all of a sudden. We have a connection. We have a relationship. We have a special bond as he says.

However, Recently, I saw a photo of him and a woman. I confronted him about it. I asked him who is she. He didn't answer me who is she, who is she in his life. He said that it's not what I think it is. He mentioned helping someone and he didn't, cannot elaborate it more for now. He said that eventually, this day will come. He said that he will tell me about it in time but not now. I've asked if he loves the person and he answered me "no". He is not romantically involved. I've asked if they have a kid, he said no. I've asked if he's married to the person, he didn't answer me yes or no. He said 1 question will lead to another and he will tell me in time. He told me that it's my decision, to stay or leave. If I would be comfortable in this situation now. He kept saying that he will tell me in time. I'm so confused. I feel betrayed. I really don't know. I love him and I know he loves me. I don't want to lose him. Should I stay, should I leave, should we stop communicating first and think about it.

It sounds to me as though you two are happy together and getting most of your mental, physical, companionship/emotional and spiritual needs satisfied with this relationship, which I estimate as being about 85% as fulfilling as a real life "normal" type of relationship as long as you don't judge your good thing by unreasonable standards.

If you are happy with him, allow him AND YOURSELF the pleasure and luxury of a physical release with whomever he or you might choose, just as long as you and your distant lover's hearts and souls and minds and spiritual connection is/are vibrant and fulfilling.

Either he faps to satisfy his physical urges or else he has a female substitute for you.

The reason you might leave him is because why?

That he might leave you to be with someone else?

Just enjoy your time with him and always be prepared to say good bye when it concludes.

Walk away and remember the pleasure.

Then smile and send a signal to Gd or the Universe that you are done with that course and to please bring the next plate.

Yum!

 

[jenniferpearson]

I am in a long-distance relationship with someone that is a thousand miles apart. We came from different timezone yet manage to work it out all these years. We enjoyed each other's company when we are physically together and virtually. We spent time watching movies/cooking and doing other things together virtually (Facetime). We love each other. He always says that it surprises him that I have good qualities that he never finds with anyone. He always makes me feel loved and cared for despite our distance. At times we can do read and feel each other's thoughts / feelings. One day (on his birthday) he suddenly said, his mom would be so proud of me, that I'm everything that she (his mom) would love to be her daughter-in-law and everything I am as his love. It was a special moment. He is not the type of man that always says the word "i love you" . He says it in unexpected moments, like all of a sudden. We have a connection. We have a relationship. We have a special bond as he says.

However, Recently, I saw a photo of him and a woman. I confronted him about it. I asked him who is she. He didn't answer me who is she, who is she in his life. He said that it's not what I think it is. He mentioned helping someone and he didn't, cannot elaborate it more for now. He said that eventually, this day will come. He said that he will tell me about it in time but not now. I've asked if he loves the person and he answered me "no". He is not romantically involved. I've asked if they have a kid, he said no. I've asked if he's married to the person, he didn't answer me yes or no. He said 1 question will lead to another and he will tell me in time. He told me that it's my decision, to stay or leave. If I would be comfortable in this situation now. He kept saying that he will tell me in time. I'm so confused. I feel betrayed. I really don't know. I love him and I know he loves me. I don't want to lose him. Should I stay, should I leave, should we stop communicating first and think about it.

After seeing a photo of your partner with another woman and his reluctance to answer your questions, you're understandably confused and betrayed. Discussing your feelings and concerns with your partner is crucial. He should be honest about his relationship with this woman and acknowledge your discomfort.

You should think about what you want and need in a relationship before deciding to stay or leave. Talk to your partner about setting clear relationship boundaries and expectations, including honesty and communication. Open and honest communication is essential for both partners to feel respected and valued.

If you decide to stay together, discuss ways to build trust and strengthen your relationship, like regular check-ins or more communication. Take a break from communication if you need time to process your feelings. Any relationship should prioritize your happiness and well-being.

 

[rebrecs]

I'm going to throw this out there, and it is not intended to be a criticism of anyone in this story.
I would invite/suggest/ask anyone presenting a long distance relationship (LDRC) challenge to spend a little time on what you think the purpose of a long distance relationship is. I'm not trying to be witty or clever - its a helpful exercise.

 

[PGBC]

I am in a long-distance relationship with someone that is a thousand miles apart. We came from different timezone yet manage to work it out all these years. We enjoyed each other's company when we are physically together and virtually. We spent time watching movies/cooking and doing other things together virtually (Facetime). We love each other. He always says that it surprises him that I have good qualities that he never finds with anyone. He always makes me feel loved and cared for despite our distance. At times we can do read and feel each other's thoughts / feelings. One day (on his birthday) he suddenly said, his mom would be so proud of me, that I'm everything that she (his mom) would love to be her daughter-in-law and everything I am as his love. It was a special moment. He is not the type of man that always says the word "i love you" . He says it in unexpected moments, like all of a sudden. We have a connection. We have a relationship. We have a special bond as he says.

However, Recently, I saw a photo of him and a woman. I confronted him about it. I asked him who is she. He didn't answer me who is she, who is she in his life. He said that it's not what I think it is. He mentioned helping someone and he didn't, cannot elaborate it more for now. He said that eventually, this day will come. He said that he will tell me about it in time but not now. I've asked if he loves the person and he answered me "no". He is not romantically involved. I've asked if they have a kid, he said no. I've asked if he's married to the person, he didn't answer me yes or no. He said 1 question will lead to another and he will tell me in time. He told me that it's my decision, to stay or leave. If I would be comfortable in this situation now. He kept saying that he will tell me in time. I'm so confused. I feel betrayed. I really don't know. I love him and I know he loves me. I don't want to lose him. Should I stay, should I leave, should we stop communicating first and think about it.

Natalie, what did you decide?