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life in our family has been a little drama filled as of late...
here's how it all started....
my brother & soon to be exSIL are going through a divorce..
two weeks ago, my brother in i were suppose to start working in West Palm,FL. we were to be there for about 17 days. the night before we were to go to work, we get a call that my nephew is in Oregon's DHS protective custody.
apparently my SIL decided to off herself by smashing the SUV into a tree head-on with my nephew in the car. He was not wearing any restraints and flew to the front of the SUV.Thank god for airbags.Nobody was hurt just a little cut on my nephew.BUT boy do i want to hurt my SIL.
This all happened on the 29th of December and we didnt find out about it for 2 weeks after that.X-SIL told DHS that my bro had no contact with his son or her and was no part of his life.She also said that she didnt know where to get ahold of bro..
We think she thought she would be able to get him back without us finding out.She was wrong.....
Sooooo...off to Oregon we drive.. The drama continues...
We get to Oregon DHS,we have to go to court because she told DHS that my brother was a drug addict & other crap that was untrue. and since there is no custody order they dont know if the will give us my nephew back.
we wait 3 days before they can see my bro...make him take a pee test which he passes...interview him,watch him interact with my nephew...then make us wait more time for a court hearing...which was on wednesday...
wednesday comes, the judge says to DHS that they have no legal right to hold my nephew because he is not a resident of Oregon because my sil took him from washington state and disappeared to here(OR)...BUT since there is no custody order we have to go to washington state where there from(200+miles away) to get a divorce petition as well as a protection order since she tried to kill herself...
luckily there is someone in the courthouse we were going to help us with filling out the paperwork for free...but she is only in on thursdays.. we leave early thursday morning, arrive to the courthouse... get to the courthouse, the lady who is suppose to help us is not in for the day..she had her own family emergency(poor ladies child ended up in intensive care...)
Now what??lol
find a lawyer...no luck.... talk to some friends, family friend works as a clerk at the courthouse...she fills out the paperwork...we drive to the courthouse to drop off papers... another clerk said we really should have a lawyer look at the papers and file them...come back in the morning and see if any of lawyers will help out...
find a lawyer..wrong kind of lawyer but he knows the best family lawyer in the county...we cant afford her... he(the other lawyer) begs her..just look at this case and all the details...give him 20 minutes...after you hear him,you will help him...if you want him to pay for your 20 minutes he will...she tells him to tell us to come NOW...
we get the best lawyer for free...she files the paper work..the judge signs the papers...all legal
we then drive back to portland oregon...now we wait until monday morning at 8:30am to give the judge the papers...And my nephew will be coming home with us by the afternoon..
sorry such a long message but i had to vent..there is still more to this story but you get the idea now...lol
the car
the best nephew in the world
here's how it all started....
my brother & soon to be exSIL are going through a divorce..
two weeks ago, my brother in i were suppose to start working in West Palm,FL. we were to be there for about 17 days. the night before we were to go to work, we get a call that my nephew is in Oregon's DHS protective custody.
apparently my SIL decided to off herself by smashing the SUV into a tree head-on with my nephew in the car. He was not wearing any restraints and flew to the front of the SUV.Thank god for airbags.Nobody was hurt just a little cut on my nephew.BUT boy do i want to hurt my SIL.
This all happened on the 29th of December and we didnt find out about it for 2 weeks after that.X-SIL told DHS that my bro had no contact with his son or her and was no part of his life.She also said that she didnt know where to get ahold of bro..
We think she thought she would be able to get him back without us finding out.She was wrong.....
Sooooo...off to Oregon we drive.. The drama continues...
We get to Oregon DHS,we have to go to court because she told DHS that my brother was a drug addict & other crap that was untrue. and since there is no custody order they dont know if the will give us my nephew back.
we wait 3 days before they can see my bro...make him take a pee test which he passes...interview him,watch him interact with my nephew...then make us wait more time for a court hearing...which was on wednesday...
wednesday comes, the judge says to DHS that they have no legal right to hold my nephew because he is not a resident of Oregon because my sil took him from washington state and disappeared to here(OR)...BUT since there is no custody order we have to go to washington state where there from(200+miles away) to get a divorce petition as well as a protection order since she tried to kill herself...
luckily there is someone in the courthouse we were going to help us with filling out the paperwork for free...but she is only in on thursdays.. we leave early thursday morning, arrive to the courthouse... get to the courthouse, the lady who is suppose to help us is not in for the day..she had her own family emergency(poor ladies child ended up in intensive care...)
Now what??lol
find a lawyer...no luck.... talk to some friends, family friend works as a clerk at the courthouse...she fills out the paperwork...we drive to the courthouse to drop off papers... another clerk said we really should have a lawyer look at the papers and file them...come back in the morning and see if any of lawyers will help out...
find a lawyer..wrong kind of lawyer but he knows the best family lawyer in the county...we cant afford her... he(the other lawyer) begs her..just look at this case and all the details...give him 20 minutes...after you hear him,you will help him...if you want him to pay for your 20 minutes he will...she tells him to tell us to come NOW...
we get the best lawyer for free...she files the paper work..the judge signs the papers...all legal
we then drive back to portland oregon...now we wait until monday morning at 8:30am to give the judge the papers...And my nephew will be coming home with us by the afternoon..
sorry such a long message but i had to vent..there is still more to this story but you get the idea now...lol
the car
the best nephew in the world