So once upon a time I was married to my first wife. When we first got together she had a 9 month old baby. I took him in and raised him as my own. He was 12 when we separated. Without any thought or consideration she gave him two options. He could either go live with his biodad or move out west with her.
He chose to live with his dad. I still got to see him as he'd come over to visit his younger brother who stayed with me after the split. It was alright though I saw lots of what was going on with his biodad (drugs partying etc). It got to a point where he'd be over at my place 5-6 times a week in the evenings till almost bedtime. It was hard to watch. Eventually I moved to the city with his younger brother. Within a short time he and his biodad began fighting to the point where he was basically shipped ed off to live with his mother out west. I lost contact with him and the only time my son saw him was when he went out there to visit twice a year. He's now 17 and called me up the other day asking to come visit next weekend. I later found out he's moving back.
So what do I do? Welcome him with open arms? Allow him to visit his brother but remain neutral and distant? So much has changed but regardless I raised him as my own until he was torn from me.
He chose to live with his dad. I still got to see him as he'd come over to visit his younger brother who stayed with me after the split. It was alright though I saw lots of what was going on with his biodad (drugs partying etc). It got to a point where he'd be over at my place 5-6 times a week in the evenings till almost bedtime. It was hard to watch. Eventually I moved to the city with his younger brother. Within a short time he and his biodad began fighting to the point where he was basically shipped ed off to live with his mother out west. I lost contact with him and the only time my son saw him was when he went out there to visit twice a year. He's now 17 and called me up the other day asking to come visit next weekend. I later found out he's moving back.
So what do I do? Welcome him with open arms? Allow him to visit his brother but remain neutral and distant? So much has changed but regardless I raised him as my own until he was torn from me.