Will I have a chance in a relationship?

RainbowCali

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At this moment I'm holding off dating and continuing therapy at my college. I'm currently a 19 year-old college freshman.

There is a good reason I don't reciprocate when I get hit on by guys. It's just been 3 years since I was released from a juvenile detention center. I was locked up for 6 years (from ages 10-16) and upon released was under conditional supervision for 2 more years; until my HS graduation. I did time for doing serious things as a kid.

Eventually I do want to get in a relationship, find a man that will accept me and have kids. Will I have that chance? Will a man ever come to overlooking what I did as a kid and giving me a chance?
 

Doc

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To answer your question, I would guess yes. Good things take time. Be patient.
 

300 H and H

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Your young, and have a life time ahead of you. If you want to relationship, my bet is you can have that. As a young Adult, you are already aware of the issues your childhood brings. In my State crimes committed as a juvenile are in effect erased from your record, as long as you do not repeat offend. Some thing tells me that you will not.. Lesson learned.

Own your mistakes, and they will never own you. Fess up to those you fell the need to, and admit to others as well as your self what a mess you made at the ripe age of 10... Your a different person now, as you realize that you paid your time for the act you committed. This is important to remember, as you paid your debt to society.

I wish you the best of luck. May you for your life time realize the difference between right and wrong.

Regards, Kirk
 

Lenny

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An older adult mentor in your personal life could help greatly, whether it be a mom, dad, uncle, aunt or another trusted person.

Two young ladies and one young man have "adopted me in the past. I took that very serious and helped them with my experiences. I hope this helps
 

Snowtrac Nome

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An older adult mentor in your personal life could help greatly, whether it be a mom, dad, uncle, aunt or another trusted person.

Two young ladies and one young man have "adopted me in the past. I took that very serious and helped them with my experiences. I hope this helps
I agree I have raised 2 step children and 2 I fathered. at your age I suggest you just hold off my oldest daughter did. she met a real nice guy and just got married my step daughter who is more prone to peer pressure got pregnant 3 times now we lost the first child to sids but her mo is get to get hooked up with guys who cant keep a job or stay out of jail. I had a talk with her and meathead the last round some thing seemed to sink in been been a year since either have been a guest of the state she is working real steady has 2 kids but meathead has trouble getting to work on time as such he is un employed. the lesson here is take your time find the right one don't go looking at looks only your fun boy toy can cost you big in the long run. if things don't work out you could be stuck raising a kid your self and kids really need both parents involved in their life.
 

fizzle

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At this moment I'm holding off dating and continuing therapy at my college. I'm currently a 19 year-old college freshman.

There is a good reason I don't reciprocate when I get hit on by guys. It's just been 3 years since I was released from a juvenile detention center. I was locked up for 6 years (from ages 10-16) and upon released was under conditional supervision for 2 more years; until my HS graduation. I did time for doing serious things as a kid.

Eventually I do want to get in a relationship, find a man that will accept me and have kids. Will I have that chance? Will a man ever come to overlooking what I did as a kid and giving me a chance?


Just wondering how you're doing now since it's been a year from your initial post and whether you managed to find that someone special in that time? Everyone deserves the chance to love and to be loved, but the most important thing at the end of the day is you need to first believe that you're deserving of it. Otherwise, you'd probably just end up finding ways to sabotage your own chances each time it's presented to you and it'll eventually become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
 

FrancSevin

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Just wondering how you're doing now since it's been a year from your initial post and whether you managed to find that someone special in that time? Everyone deserves the chance to love and to be loved, but the most important thing at the end of the day is you need to first believe that you're deserving of it. Otherwise, you'd probably just end up finding ways to sabotage your own chances each time it's presented to you and it'll eventually become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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DrakeHeyman

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You are still young and you have nowhere to hurry, I am sure you will meet the person with whom you will live for the rest of your life.
 
You were told everything correctly by the people above in this thread, I am sure everything will get better for you. I myself had problems with the law at a young age but thanks to good help from adults, everything was resolved. Therefore, in the future, I had problems with dating girls because of my self-doubt. And when I finally met a girl I lied to her about my past and when the deception was revealed I spent a long time trying my best to restore some trust between us. As a result, now we are doing well and I am sure you will also be fine.
 

FrancSevin

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At the age of 74 I still don't know a lot about women, but one thing is for sure. They need you to be genuine from the get go. I believe men are the same. It is one of the few qualities the sexes share with equal measure.
Always put your best foot forward but, it should always be an honest representation of what you really are. The best friendships, the best personal bonds, begin with honesty and then trust. In truth, people will accept or reject you as you are. If they reject you because of your past, how will a lie help the relationship continue.

In love, one needs to be so authentic to become so close that there is nothing between you. Never allow something you hid, come between you. Start with honesty or forever love in fear of the exposure of the lie.
 
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