My experience is not very normal in most sense. I had invested retirement funds in mutual funds since I started saving in the early 80's.
Along about 2014 I decided Mutual funds were way to expensive, as they were actively trading my funds and collecting fee's every time, they did so. My thought is why trade, when I want to actually be and investor myself. In a mutual fund you have no idea who you are funding, who to congratulate for a gain or cuss out for a loss. As a farmer I am used to paying attention to markets and know the risks of commodities trading. I also became aware of the counter cyclical nature of commodities and the stock market. When one is doing well often times the other is thriving, and sometimes both do well at the same time. Rarely both are down at once.
So, I sold out of mutual funds, grabbed the oars and started to row my own boat, knowing it is only I who I can blame or praise for gains or lose. Since that time the retirement fund has done about 5X of its original value. I do not trade, I invest and hold for the most part. Maybe once a year I change my portfolio.
If you can divorce your emotions from your money and just remember statistically over time the markets are up 85% of the time and only down 15% of the time you have some confidence that long term you will do very well. Eliminating the middleman, the mutual fund has been my secret sauce to get where I wanted to be and then some. It has worked very well for me over the past 12 years. You pick the time you buy, and you let the market and your needs tell you when to sell. Selling at a loss is to be avoided at all practical costs. Being patient and waiting without worry is harder to do but as a farmer I am used to taking risks, so I look at it a bit differently. Daily stock values are not what I check daily. I try to keep emotions out of it. Hard for some to do.
I do keep an eye on quarterly earnings to verify the health of the companies I own. As long as the fundamentals have not changed I look at the daily value as just market opinion, not fact. Sooner or later the value is going to be based off the facts not the rumors or fake news.
Just as in politics there are those who present fake news to sway the market short term. Yet another reason to not pay to much attention on the daily value of the stock. It becomes a waiting game waiting for the day to sell at a profit. Patience, lack of emotions are required.
So, to the risk takers go the rewards. This has always been true no matter who you are or what you do.
So that is my story, your milage may vary.