Long story.
One of my kids qualified to fence FOIL in the Junior Olympics. The JO event is in mid-February.
The kid is a solid high school fencer, certainly above average. But not great. Just pretty good. He wins a couple medals every year, but doesn't dominate competitions.
I took him to the Junior Olympic qualifiers. He qualified. Had an unusually great day that day. Talked with his parents, and the family is now planning to attend the J.O. competition in February.
Biggest tournament this kid has been in has had about 60-70 kids in his event. And of those 60-70, probably 80% of them are "seasonal" fencers who only compete in high school events and only practice during the high school season. And that accurately describes my kid.
At the Junior Olympics 90+% of the kids fence year around. 75% have private lessons and compete year around. 65% of them will probably travel to the event with their private coach. When I looked at the competitors, there were 312 fencers in his event, approx 2500 in the total competition. Of the 312 in his event, over 175 of them qualified as "Division 1" competitors. My kid is an "unrated" fencer and got lucky to qualify for this event.
95% of the fencers at this competition will be able to beat my kid. Like a bongo drum in a hippie 1950's coffeehouse I want him to go for the learning experience. I talked with him and his family, at length, about expectations. We talked about being humble, about asking the other fencers in his "pool" for advice. I explained that just going is the prize. I know other kids who have gone and LOST EVERY BOUT and I'd expect pretty much that from this kid. Perhaps he will win 1? I doubt he will win 2 unless he is extraordinarily lucky, fencing really well, and someone else is having a bad day.
So all that said, the head coach walks up to the 2 of us, tells this kid he will do well, tells him that he can beat "E" and "D" ranked fencers (both of which are well above this kid's skill level), blah blah blah.
I think the kid just got his hopes up.
I think the head coach screwed up bad.
This kid has basic raw talent but will be a fish out of water at this event. He's never been at anything remotely like this. His mom & dad will be there at his side, they are clueless about fencing. Other kids will have professional coaches, and often will have an entire team as clubs tend to travel in groups.
I told the whole story to my co-coach, she is in total agreement with me and upset about what the head coach did. She's planning to also talk to the kid.
Any advice on what I can and should do?
At this point I'm not looking to correct the coach, I'm worried about the kid.
Both my co-coach and I will be with him today and tomorrow. I want to keep him excited about going, but realistic in expectations. I think being sent to a big event with unrealistic expectations, and then being crushed, will destroy him but sending him there with realistic expectations of learning and meeting people can actually make him look forward to his future.
Am I wrong?
Is the head coach correct?
One of my kids qualified to fence FOIL in the Junior Olympics. The JO event is in mid-February.
The kid is a solid high school fencer, certainly above average. But not great. Just pretty good. He wins a couple medals every year, but doesn't dominate competitions.
I took him to the Junior Olympic qualifiers. He qualified. Had an unusually great day that day. Talked with his parents, and the family is now planning to attend the J.O. competition in February.
Biggest tournament this kid has been in has had about 60-70 kids in his event. And of those 60-70, probably 80% of them are "seasonal" fencers who only compete in high school events and only practice during the high school season. And that accurately describes my kid.
At the Junior Olympics 90+% of the kids fence year around. 75% have private lessons and compete year around. 65% of them will probably travel to the event with their private coach. When I looked at the competitors, there were 312 fencers in his event, approx 2500 in the total competition. Of the 312 in his event, over 175 of them qualified as "Division 1" competitors. My kid is an "unrated" fencer and got lucky to qualify for this event.
95% of the fencers at this competition will be able to beat my kid. Like a bongo drum in a hippie 1950's coffeehouse I want him to go for the learning experience. I talked with him and his family, at length, about expectations. We talked about being humble, about asking the other fencers in his "pool" for advice. I explained that just going is the prize. I know other kids who have gone and LOST EVERY BOUT and I'd expect pretty much that from this kid. Perhaps he will win 1? I doubt he will win 2 unless he is extraordinarily lucky, fencing really well, and someone else is having a bad day.
So all that said, the head coach walks up to the 2 of us, tells this kid he will do well, tells him that he can beat "E" and "D" ranked fencers (both of which are well above this kid's skill level), blah blah blah.
I think the kid just got his hopes up.
I think the head coach screwed up bad.
This kid has basic raw talent but will be a fish out of water at this event. He's never been at anything remotely like this. His mom & dad will be there at his side, they are clueless about fencing. Other kids will have professional coaches, and often will have an entire team as clubs tend to travel in groups.
I told the whole story to my co-coach, she is in total agreement with me and upset about what the head coach did. She's planning to also talk to the kid.
Any advice on what I can and should do?
At this point I'm not looking to correct the coach, I'm worried about the kid.
Both my co-coach and I will be with him today and tomorrow. I want to keep him excited about going, but realistic in expectations. I think being sent to a big event with unrealistic expectations, and then being crushed, will destroy him but sending him there with realistic expectations of learning and meeting people can actually make him look forward to his future.
Am I wrong?
Is the head coach correct?