B_Skurka said:
I think one of the big failings of our education system is that they don't teach basic life budgeting. In fact it is a political football and that is why it is not done.
I owe a big thanks to my mother, who although went through allot of aggrivation "trying" to teach me about a check book and having more money in the bank than what I owe, did I pretty good job of teaching me. Funny, the older I get, the more I'm in awe of my parents and what they have accomplished in life. My parents really never had much money, after my father retired from the Air Force, they bought a "small" 1200 sq. ft house with a little land, and spent my high school years there. Growing up, thought we never had allot of money family wise. Never drove "fancy" cars, never bought anything "big" for the house, and it seemed that during christmas, while most of my 20 or so cousins my age seemd to get "everything", I got one or two gifts (no complaints).
Have to laugh when I remember a couple of times out at a store with my mom growing up because when she actually used a credit card, sometimes it would come back as "no good" because she hadn't used it in years and was "deactivated".
I remember getting out of college and being on my own, and having to go over some of my finances with my mother, with her leaning heavy on me to join the federal credit union and to start "investing" at least some of my money. At the time, I was looking for an auto, and shopping for interest rates. My mom mentioned to me that THEY would loan me the money and I could pay them back interest free. I told her that I didn't want to do that, that I felt it would/could be a financial burden on them. I'll never forget when she then pulled out her check book and some of her other "financial" paperwork (first time that I got to see most of this). I was dumbfounded, she could of afforded to buy a Jaguar and a house (at that time at least) and pay cash for it! She always knew that I wanted a Porshe 911, and came close to spending everything I had when I got out of the military for a used one, but she talked me out of it, that money was for college. When she showed me her checkbook, she asked me seriously if I really still wanted that 911. I looked at her and asked "really?" She bursted out laughing, telling me "no, just kidding, but you should of seen the look on your face!" She had a great sense of humor which I still miss at times.
I remember telling her that I never realized they had so much money, and asked her "how come you guys never spend anything on something "big" for themselves. I'll never forget her telling me "I have your father, we have everything we need, when we want something we pay cash for it, and we don't owe anyone anything, and thats the way we're going to keep it".
The older I get, the smarter my parents become.
My only regret is that when I first found my "career", I didn't invest more in the 410K and invest differently (I played it to safe, might as well as put my money into bonds
). My problem was at that time (in my late twenties, early thirties) is that I never looked thirty or forty years down the road. Honestly, never thought I'd get married, never owned a house before, spent most of my weekends enjoying outdoor activities with my friends, and pretty much just having a blast. Honestly, never thought those times (retirement) would come, and that I would actually have "financial responsibilities" and figured I would "just deal with it" when it came. At least working with this guys (advisor) has opened my eyes to an extent.
Man, what doesn't the goverment tax you on