A failed attempt at friendship

Gunsrus · Mar 19, 2014

These last two weeks have taught me one thing: you can never be too sure of how genuine people are. I was starting to get to know one of the local librarians. She was the youngest of the three that are working at the Escuela Oficial de Idiomas in Gerona.

To my eyes and ears, she seemed like a nice person. We talked a few times, we were starting to get to know each other and then today, the shit hit the fan, hard and I did absolutely but be on my best behavior.

The day before I came to the library to ask about a few things and then all of a sudden, one of the secretaries came in to relieve Georgina, her name was. She left and then I went to find one of the tutors to ask him a question. I came back to the library and Georgina had gone back to her desk. One of the other secretaries was there. I was confused and didn't know what to do, never having been in the position of seeing people switch around on such short notice, so I left.

Now, the next day, I went to the library and apologized to Georgina for leaving so abruptly. I explained to her that I didn't know what to do because things had happened very rapidly and that I didn't want to interrupt anything.

Georgina didn't react. She said nothing and even looked away from me. She could've said, it doesn't matter, or no need to worry, but no, she just switched off.

Now, what kind of a girl does this to a man who sincerely apologizes for leaving abruptly, I've got to ask you?

squerly · Mar 19, 2014

You're just now finding out what a fickle species women are?

Danang Sailor · Mar 19, 2014

Gunsrus said:
These last two weeks have taught me one thing: you can never be too sure of how genuine people are. I was starting to get to know one of the local librarians. She was the youngest of the three that are working at the Escuela Oficial de Idiomas in Gerona.

To my eyes and ears, she seemed like a nice person. We talked a few times, we were starting to get to know each other and then today, the shit hit the fan, hard and I did absolutely but be on my best behavior.

The day before I came to the library to ask about a few things and then all of a sudden, one of the secretaries came in to relieve Georgina, her name was. She left and then I went to find one of the tutors to ask him a question. I came back to the library and Georgina had gone back to her desk. One of the other secretaries was there. I was confused and didn't know what to do, never having been in the position of seeing people switch around on such short notice, so I left.

Now, the next day, I went to the library and apologized to Georgina for leaving so abruptly. I explained to her that I didn't know what to do because things had happened very rapidly and that I didn't want to interrupt anything.

Georgina didn't react. She said nothing and even looked away from me. She could've said, it doesn't matter, or no need to worry, but no, she just switched off.

Now, what kind of a girl does this to a man who sincerely apologizes for leaving abruptly, I've got to ask you?

If I had to guess - and that seems to be what you're asking for - I'd say Georgina wasn't as "into" the fledgling relationship
as you thought, and the other gals were running interference for her at her request. Then again, since I'm on your
Ignore List, you'll never see this reasonable answer will you? Oh well ...

JEV · Mar 19, 2014

Gunsrus said:
Now, what kind of a girl does this to a man who sincerely apologizes for leaving abruptly, I've got to ask you?

Georgiana kind of girl. Women are a strange creature, and regardless of your sincerity, they will always be right, and men will always be wrong. Suck it up and move on. You will never be able to achieve all of your relationship goals as long as you're dealing with human beings. Get a nice Labrador retriever who will love you unconditionally.

Gunsrus · Mar 19, 2014

squerly said:
You're just now finding out what a fickle species women are?

Why are they fickle?

JEV said:
Georgiana kind of girl. Women are a strange creature, and regardless of your sincerity, they will always be right, and men will always be wrong. Suck it up and move on. You will never be able to achieve all of your relationship goals as long as you're dealing with human beings. Get a nice Labrador retriever who will love you unconditionally.

I must admit this is true. It's an absolute that no human deny. Dogs are unconditionally loyal. I've owned dogs and seen it for myself. I valued them very much for their devotion. Yeah, I do intend to move on. I won't let this one person get me down. I've never let anyone do that to me. It's her loss, not mine.

bczoom · Mar 19, 2014

Gunsrus said:
Why are they fickle?

That's one of the questions that's gone unanswered since the beginning of time.

Gunsrus said:
I must admit this is true. It's an absolute that no human deny. Dogs are unconditionally loyal. I've owned dogs and seen it for myself. I valued them very much for their devotion. Yeah, I do intend to move on. I won't let this one person get me down. I've never let anyone do that to me. It's her loss, not mine.

Do you know how to tell who likes and appreciates you more? (Your woman or your dog).

Lock both of them in the trunk of your car for an hour and drive around. See which is happy to see you after you open the trunk.

Leni · Mar 19, 2014

I agree with Danang Sailor. As a member of the fickle 1/2 of the human race it sounds to me like you crossed a line even though you didn't realize it. The other girls are running interferrence for her most likely at her request. Been there, done that.

JEV · Mar 19, 2014

Leni said:
I agree with Danang Sailor. As a member of the fickle 1/2 of the human race it sounds to me like you crossed a line even though you didn't realize it. The other girls are running interferrence for her most likely at her request. Been there, done that.

He may have crossed a line, but she's a coward for not letting him know WHAT he did. She will be high maintenance for some poor sap, and probably leave him when the money runs out.

Gunsrus · Mar 19, 2014

Danang Sailor said:
If I had to guess - and that seems to be what you're asking for - I'd say Georgina wasn't as "into" the fledgling relationship
as you thought, and the other gals were running interference for her at her request. Then again, since I'm on your
Ignore List, you'll never see this reasonable answer will you? Oh well ...

Well, I've taken you off my ignore list. My interested was piqued by Leni's reference to the comment in your post. I don't hold grudges. There may have been heat between us a while back, but I am not a vengeful person. I never hold grudges. I let bygones be bygones if the people I have a problem with post interesting and reasonable stuff, like you. Thanks for the post in this thread.

True, Georgina may have asked the others to interfere. I wondered if it was a coincidence that the secretaries stepped in when they did. It makes perfect sense that they came in to push me away.

Well, this is one of life's lessons. I'll take heed of it.

mtntopper · Mar 19, 2014

Sometimes it is a thin line between friendship and stalking. I think it is hard this day and age for many gals to see the difference. They will get worried with the horrible crap that seems to happen in some cases. You just need to not cross that line, realize when your welcome is worn out and respect that line when it happens otherwise it becomes stalking.

Gunsrus · Mar 19, 2014

mtntopper said:
Sometimes it is a thin line between friendship and stalking. I think it is hard this day and age for many gals to see the difference. They will get worried with the horrible crap that seems to happen in some cases. You just need to not cross that line, realize when your welcome is worn out and respect that line when it happens otherwise it becomes stalking.

I appreciate your thoughts, mtntopper. I certainly did not mean to stalk this young woman. I intend to leave her alone. I would like to understand why, not having behaved lecherously or unpleasantly to her, that she would think I was stalking her. I was polite to her. I was kind to her. I never insisted on anything or acted forcibly.

Please, everyone, help me to see why girls think as mtntopper has suggested.

Reuben Goldberg · Mar 19, 2014

There are always two sides to every story, and with what we know about Gunsrus, my bet is young Georgina's version is a lulu. Seems her girlfriends did their best to run someone out of the library.

By the way, just who goes to the library nowadays? .... I mean besides pervs and homeless people?

waybomb · Mar 19, 2014

To hell with all this kissy-face advice.

Go up to her and say "Tickle your ass with a feather?"
If she smiles, well, great job and have fun!

If she snarls, say "What? Typical nasty weather!"
And move on.

Leni · Mar 19, 2014

We are dealing with different cultures here. It's also a lot different from when I was dating. I felt vulnerable if a guy came on too strong and I just wanted to get away from him. Too many guys would not take 'no' for an answer.

leadarrows · Mar 19, 2014

God is Great, Beer is Good and Women are Crazy.

Deal with it and move on.

waybomb · Mar 19, 2014

"No" is just "on" backwards. What's wrong with backwards? :flowers:

luvs · Mar 19, 2014

Reuben Goldberg said:
By the way, just who goes to the library nowadays?QUOTE]

me, & many others, too. & how dare you indicate a vast link of local libraries, or college libraries, mean none other than borrowing a book nearby is wrong. there is so much to a library, these daze.
kiddos ought be in school libraries, then w/ a Parent/caretaker thereafter. reading is essential. often, -$30/$40 a book- minimum- if purchased. library- $0.00.

luvs · Mar 19, 2014

reading isn't an issue. reading engages one's mind. we, read. interpret. think. i'll opt to read. usually why i fade away. watch incessant t.v. if yinz prefer. your loss.

luvs · Mar 19, 2014

i was left to get med treatment. he said (him, in my own home)-if i sought treatment, he was leaving to a new area.-fraidy cat. i gave him my blessing. let's see him that ill, than be ditched. he said he could not see me so ill. ummmm- i was/i'm that person living that illness. shame on his adult self.

Kane · Mar 20, 2014

I was starting to get to know one of the local librarians. She was the youngest of the three that are working at the Escuela Oficial de Idiomas in Gerona.

Let's get this into perspective before we all assume that Miss Georgina is just being "fickle". How young is "young"? ... and how old are you, Gunsrus?

There are always two sides to every story, and with what we know about Gunsrus, my bet is young Georgina's version is a lulu.

Maybe Georgina had good reason to run. After all, she is a librarian.

Just sayin'.
.

300 H and H · Mar 20, 2014

Perhaps Georgia is of a different orientation that most... Perhaps she is not into men at all. Perhaps she is a sister licker (lesbian) and you are what she fears most of all, a man. If so I doubt you will ever know.

Just one of the possibilities that fits this senario. Maybe way wrong.

Regards, Kirk

Kane · Mar 20, 2014

luvs said:
i was left to get med treatment. he said (him, in my own home)-if i sought treatment, he was leaving to a new area.-fraidy cat. i gave him my blessing. let's see him that ill, than be ditched. he said he could not see me so ill. ummmm- i was/i'm that person living that illness. shame on his adult self.

That really sux, luvs. Yes indeed, what a shameless rat.

JEV · Mar 20, 2014

If it's got a vagina or wheels, it's gonna give you problems. (I used to say tits, but since luvs ain't got none, I didn't want to leave her out. :flowers:

)

If they start out fickle, there's nothing you can say or do to change them, so just move on down the road. Did you happen to think her girlfriends might have been jealous of you, and staged a coup against you? Broads can be like that.

JEV · Mar 20, 2014

300 H and H said:
Perhaps Georgia is of a different orientation that most... Perhaps she is not into men at all. Perhaps she is a sister licker (lesbian) and you are what she fears most of all, a man. If so I doubt you will ever know.

Just one of the possibilities that fits this senario. Maybe way wrong.

Regards, Kirk

Be careful there boy! I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body, and happen to love carpet munchers. I was going to have the operation, but so many of them like the strap on that I thought I'd save the real thing for them. :whistling:

Why is it everyone wants to bang the librarian?

Gunsrus · Mar 20, 2014

Kane said:
Let's get this into perspective before we all assume that Miss Georgina is just being "fickle". How young is "young"? ... and how old are you, Gunsrus?

Maybe Georgina had good reason to run. After all, she is a librarian.

Just sayin'.
.

I am 30. Georgina looks like a girl in her very early twenties. I meant she's the youngest because her fellow secretaries are in their mid to late fifties.

Doc · Mar 20, 2014

Sounds like a case of her simply not being interested, and trying not to have to be rude and tell you to your face. Understood that her avoidance actions also sure seem rude.

Some folks have a hard time telling someone they are not interested so they use the avoidance technique and hope the person they are avoiding gets the idea.

luvs · Mar 20, 2014

she may have gone from being polite, to being overwhelmed. if she got her gals to get involved, she is likely not interested. she may be w/ someone already, or whose to say--
i can give an example. i was @ pub, & a guy kept pestering me 4 my # last night. so, i finally gave him that # to shush him. u should seeeeeeeeeeeee these texts he sent last night, & how many. women oft' stay on a defensive level due to guys similar to him that ruin things fer other guys.

Danang Sailor · Mar 20, 2014

luvs said:
she may have gone from being polite, to being overwhelmed. if she got her gals to get involved, she is likely not interested. she may be w/ someone already, or whose to say--
i can give an example. i was @ pub, & a guy kept pestering me 4 my # last night. so, i finally gave him that # to shush him. u should seeeeeeeeeeeee these texts he sent last night, & how many. women oft' stay on a defensive level due to guys similar to him that ruin things fer other guys.

For situations like that, I recommend you memorize the number of the Chief of Police, and give that one to the pests! :yum:

luvs · Mar 21, 2014

Danang Sailor said:
For situations like that, I recommend you memorize the number of the Chief of Police, and give that one to the pests!

i'm pals w/a chief; sadly not of my borough. lol, luv that thought, tho.

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