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Old 08-01-2015, 10:11 PM
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Default Sooo... just how bad is this?

First and foremost I hope I am not starting to many topics.. and this one is ummm kinda embarrassing. But since I don't know many here personally, I feel better asking here than in the real world, because I don't know how to approach it in person... Hopefully this isn't to much TMI either, but I just don't know how to take it.. Okay here it goes...

My hubby to be is going to be out of town all next week as his job is sending him pretty far... So since he will be leaving soon, we have made the best of spending some last minute time together before he left. Well about two hours this afternoon before leaving we got into "the moment" and so I had put a movie on for the kids and told them that we needed some adult talk and would be out shortly. So then we proceed to do "something" and he really wanted me to wear "something" that let's say is for the bedroom only...

So we umm are really into it, and then I thought I heard something behind me, granted I am like sitting upright... . So I look over and my soon to be 8 son is just standing there staring at us and looking at me funny as I was dressed different and umm somewhat exposed. I have no idea how long he was there but he looked so confused and then said "Our movie stopped" as I fell to the bed as soon as I could in a panic to cover up....

Now I feel like I scard him for life and feel aboslutly horrible and a horrid parent. My guy is all like stop stressing it happens, but I CANNOT get this out of my mind.... I guess I have every reason to feel this way... I honestly deserve it for being so selfish. But how will it effect him???
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It just proves you are human.
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Old 08-01-2015, 10:29 PM
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It's what people do when they love each other. Explain that to your son and he'll be fine.
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First and foremost I hope I am not starting to many topics.. and this one is ummm kinda embarrassing. But since I don't know many here personally, I feel better asking here than in the real world, because I don't know how to approach it in person... Hopefully this isn't to much TMI either, but I just don't know how to take it.. Okay here it goes...

My hubby to be is going to be out of town all next week as his job is sending him pretty far... So since he will be leaving soon, we have made the best of spending some last minute time together before he left. Well about two hours this afternoon before leaving we got into "the moment" and so I had put a movie on for the kids and told them that we needed some adult talk and would be out shortly. So then we proceed to do "something" and he really wanted me to wear "something" that let's say is for the bedroom only...

So we umm are really into it, and then I thought I heard something behind me, granted I am like sitting upright... . So I look over and my soon to be 8 son is just standing there staring at us and looking at me funny as I was dressed different and umm somewhat exposed. I have no idea how long he was there but he looked so confused and then said "Our movie stopped" as I fell to the bed as soon as I could in a panic to cover up....

Now I feel like I scard him for life and feel aboslutly horrible and a horrid parent. My guy is all like stop stressing it happens, but I CANNOT get this out of my mind.... I guess I have every reason to feel this way... I honestly deserve it for being so selfish. But how will it effect him???
Breathe in for a count of four; hold it for another count of four; exhale over a count of four. Do it again, twice. You should
feel a bit less stressed and more focused now.

You did nothing wrong and your son is not scarred for life, or even for a few minutes; he will be just fine. He will need a
gentle chat about what was going on, the details depending on precisely what it was he did see. But you are not a bad
parent based on this and it is actually a good chance for you and the boy to grow closer. Just approach it the same way
you would if he had seen, say, a pair of animals copulating; if you stay calm he will too. Having a kid walk in while you
lay in dalliance sublime is not an unusual thing; it happens to a LOT of people!!

Finally, I recommend that you get a lock for your bedroom door! We discovered that having one was a godsend.
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It's what people do when they love each other. Explain that to your son and he'll be fine.
I'll second that. Excellent advise.
I'm guessing it happens to most parents .... mine was when our daughter was a good bit younger than your son. No issues because of it. Don't make a big deal out of it, and don't act as if it did not happen. Follow what JP said and move on.
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Default Re: Sooo... just how bad is this?

One of the last woman I dated had six kids, so I think they knew what mom did. However, one night after a date I had driven her home and we got amorous in the back seat. Her then 11 y.o. came out of the house and saw us in the back seat, he knocked on the window and told us to get a room.

Kids today know far more about sex then kids back in my day did. I doubt your son will be affected by it. Like other have said just explain it to him gently, that this is what married adults do when they love each other.
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Omg thank you so much! I really needed a few points of view and you all are great! I agree that a talk would be helpful. I am just more embarrassed about it now than anything, including this story... lol
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Omg thank you so much! I really needed a few points of view and you all are great! I agree that a talk would be helpful. I am just more embarrassed about it now than anything, including this story... lol
As interesting as you are, I'd appreciate seeing you post in more threads on here other than just ones that have to do with relationships, etc...
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Time for a chat about the birds and the bee's and what love is all about,8 year olds are smart and he will tell his friends,they won't believe him but some may tell their parents and if they have just expect a few extra smiles from the dad's on the school run

It's ok to get caught as long as your with the correct person.

I am amazed no dirty old git here as asked to see the outfit
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Just be glad it was not hubby dressed up like you!
Glad you had some fun.
The kid will get over it.
Even though he's probably told all his friends who told all their friends and on and on. Next time you see the unknown 8 year old in a store pointing at you and whispering in his sister's ear; you'll know why.
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I am amazed no dirty old git here as asked to see the outfit

I guess that I'm the "dirty old git". My comment was going to be that I couldn't possibly voice an opinion without seeing the pictures!!!!
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I guess that I'm the "dirty old git". My comment was going to be that I couldn't possibly voice an opinion without seeing the pictures!!!!
And now this thread is complete
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And now this thread is complete
And that's why they call me the "closer".
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Oh gawd... lol. "So embarrassed". pirate_girl, I think I need too!!! lolol :P

waybomb, would moving a couple states away help?? lol
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I agree with the others. Don't make a big deal out of it. That's the worst thing that you could do.
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So we umm are really into it, and then I thought I heard something behind me, granted I am like sitting upright... .
A little more of the specifics on "like sitting upright" would be helpful. The way teevee is nowadays, I doubt the kid saw much that would "scar him for life". Don't worry about it.
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waybomb, would moving a couple states away help?? lol
I dunno where you live, but word over here in the down river area, is there was this friends angel mommy screaming "if I told you once, I told you a million times, not there!"
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You so bad.

By the way, I almost walked in on my parents and I was 18.
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.. I guess no where I would go would be safe... lol


Leni... now that would scar you for life! LOL! :p
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