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Old 12-07-2015, 08:25 AM
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Thank you, you have no idea how much this all means to me... No, I won't commit suicide, even tho I feel like it at times. I love my kids to much, and all I could think about last night is how much he hurt them. It's so unfair to them. Only a few days before Christmas and our family is just torn apart. I know I am being really dramatic, but it just really hurts. I'm not talking to him anymore and my sis is staying here with me for a few weeks to help with the kids and myself since I am in a total emotional wreck. He came yesterday and took some things and I have no idea where he is now and I don't care...

I think I slept two hours last night, and now I need to head to work and act like I have it all together, when I feel exhausted and ill. Life sometimes is just to much, I am doing my best to be strong enough for my children, but I can't help but feel I am letting everyone down including them.

Yes that's right, I do need to learn to love myself. Because I have no respect for myself or any self esteem. I don't feel very pretty and I have been told that before. I am terrified of being alone and I don't know if I can ever recover enough to be in another relationship. I am so tired of being walked all over... Anywhos I need to get out of this negative vibe, take in all this advice and yes go to work with a feeling of a new chapter. Let's hope I can make it through the day. :)
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Old 12-07-2015, 09:04 AM
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You're pretty, stop saying you're not. You want to see not-pretty? Look at Doc. Geeze.
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Your never alone. You have your kids, and one day you will be especially glad of that..

You have the love of Family. This is all you need while you recover.

Your children, your family, and us members here respect you as well as your boss..

Not sure anyone else really matters. You need to convince yourself. You are indeed worth it. You have earned respect. Take command of it, own it.. The only one who is in doubt of the respect you already have is you. Stop beating yourself up for a problem that doesn't exist.

Time heals all wounds. Some better than others. Life is like that.

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Old 12-07-2015, 11:23 AM
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I've been where you are. In time you will heal. Just know that his words are just words intended to hurt you. Don't let them. Don't allow him into your head anymore.

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I went through this almost 2 years ago when I almost got divorced a second time. The pain seems unbearable. Eventually I got through it. It'll take a good week or two to settle the emotions and hit a routine. A new normal. In the end, we worked through things, but there is no way I would even look back in your shoes... and I don't know what the other things he has admitted to are.. just the way he treats you...i KNOW you can do better.
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Old 12-07-2015, 11:08 PM
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Oh wow you all have been amazing and always have the right things to say! ! I went to work and my boss picked up on me being off and she would not leave me alone about it. So I broke down and told her what had happened and she was in shock. So she bought me lunch and then told me to take the rest of the day off if I needed to.... but I declined because it was such a chaotic day, that it really helped keep my mind off things. :) Then I came home and my sister's husband made the most delicious dinner for us. I felt so lucky to have people like that in my life, including the members here!!! :p

He left a message today saying he feels horrible and completely sorry and will do anything to make things better. He said he has been abusing medications that have made him go crazy and he couldn't control his behavior. I ignored him and later he said that I can't keep him from the kids and will settle this in court. Well obviously... duh!

I'm learning on that whole respect myself thing... It just takes so much time getting used to after being so put down for so many years. I really want to say thank u again. Im going to try and get some actual sleep now. Some moments are better than others, but at night its just the worst. Much love... :)
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Did you take care of the banking matters today?
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Old 12-08-2015, 12:27 AM
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Your never alone. You have your kids, and one day you will be especially glad of that..

You have the love of Family. This is all you need while you recover.

Your children, your family, and us members here respect you as well as your boss..

Not sure anyone else really matters. You need to convince yourself. You are indeed worth it. You have earned respect. Take command of it, own it.. The only one who is in doubt of the respect you already have is you. Stop beating yourself up for a problem that doesn't exist.

Time heals all wounds. Some better than others. Life is like that.

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Angel you are doing extremely well,you have a good boss to which will make your life a lot easier and the fact you could have went home early but stayed put and done your job is proof you are on the correct path,i am very proud of you.

Now if i was a single man i would drive round to your house.....















knock on your door..........















embrace you passionately..........















carry you up the stairs.............















lay you on the bed............















slide gently up close to you..........















And whisper this into your ear..............















"Can you pop downstairs and grab me a ice pack and some pain killers my back has gone"



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Old 12-08-2015, 08:41 AM
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Angel you are doing extremely well,you have a good boss to which will make your life a lot easier and the fact you could have went home early but stayed put and done your job is proof you are on the correct path,i am very proud of you.

Now if i was a single man i would drive round to your house.....















knock on your door..........















embrace you passionately..........















carry you up the stairs.............















lay you on the bed............















slide gently up close to you..........















And whisper this into your ear..............















"Can you pop downstairs and grab me a ice pack and some pain killers my back has gone"



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Old 12-08-2015, 08:51 AM
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When dealing with the banking matters be careful on any loans etc you have joint with him. We had worked out a separation agreement when we split. She agreed to assume a couple of the loans. Before I could make arrangements to get my name off of the loans she declared bankruptcy. The creditors started coming after me for payment. It can be very messy in a situation like that. I persevered though and got it all figured out without losing everything.

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If he calls you the "C" word he is not in love with you. You did nothing to deserve that. If you file for divorce first you have more control over everything. Don't put if off! If you feel threated you should leave today.
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Old 12-09-2015, 01:02 AM
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If he calls you the "C" word he is not in love with you. You did nothing to deserve that. If you file for divorce first you have more control over everything. Don't put if off! If you feel threated you should leave today.
Oh his wonderful excuse was he was unable to control himself on the many things he was intoxicated on when he said that stuff... sigh...
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That's no excuse. A real man would never treat his wife like that. The guy is obviously a coward if he thinks he can justify his actions with a lame excuse like that. He obviously has no respect for you or his children.

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That's no excuse. A real man would never treat his wife like that. The guy is obviously a coward if he thinks he can justify his actions with a lame excuse like that. He obviously has no respect for you or his children.

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Oh I agree! You know how they say when some people get intoxicated the truth comes out.. I think it was more less that and how he ended up admitting to stuff in the first place.

I have a shorter day today for work, which is a yay, but at the same time I am going to get a lot of personal things done that have been discussed here. I am having the worst anxiety about all of it... and last night I got maybe two hours of sleep after such a long day because I could not shut off my mind that was just racing. I really do hope this gets easier, I am so emotionally and physically exhausted, that I am really starting to feel ill.
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You need to eat a good meal,until you start eating properly you wont function properly.

Trust me you are doing good with all this stress you just need some food to top up your energy levels to help you cope.

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That blue carpet ruins my outfit...you jerk you want some

Funny shit hahaha

Thanks for the picture Brian it is a nice reminder on how my home as improved the past few years...and the weight loss....i may recreate this picture later just for you hahahaha
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Oh his wonderful excuse was he was unable to control himself on the many things he was intoxicated on when he said that stuff... sigh...
Those are reasons to stay the hell gone, not excuses to stay.

Listen to what he's telling you, not what he's saying.
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