Cool Rider
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[FONT=trebuchet ms,arial,helvetica]The media frequently reports that 50% of American marriages will end in divorce. [/FONT]With the high cost of getting a divorce should couples get married or live together?
then why live together?
That was an absolutely mindless statement .You sound like a person that is totally insecure in Yourself . You don't think that dedicating Yourself to another will work . All that I can say is that it must be terrible to go through life thinking like that .
Hopefully You'll find a bond that will make You think differently .
You must be married, because you can't seem to give a logical answer in the thread.
Again You give a mindless response . But to answer Your statement , Yes I'm married . In fact over 30 years . Now ,please get back on Your Meds . If You stay on them long enough, You might even find someone willing to put up with Your inability to make a cogent statement .
The thread is logical, but you just can't comprehend reality.What can I say . You win through the shear logic of Your argument
The Irony of Your post is beyond My ability to put into words . If You don't comprehend What I've written , Ask Your Mom when You come up from the basement . Love ,and Kisses .
Have you ever taking the time to think before you speak? I guess not!Have You even taken the time to proof read what You post?
[FONT=trebuchet ms,arial,helvetica]With[/FONT] the high cost of getting a divorce should couples get married or live together?
I understand what you 'believe' but what you believe may not be based on fact.I don't believe for a second that living together with my boyfriend will increase are chances for divorce.
A recent Penn State University study found that cohabiting before marriage is, in fact, linked to higher rates of separation and divorce. Why? Research psychologist Catherine Cohan, a co-author of the study, says the data suggest it has a lot to do with the easy-out situation cohabitation provides, as well as with the type of people who choose to live together before marriage. "Evidence indicates that people who live together have more liberal attitudes toward divorce, are less religious and lead unconventional lifestyles," she says. Often, people who choose to live together do so for convenience, not love. Living together is so strongly associated with divorce, Cohan says, that "if you take two identical twins, with all things being equal, the twin that lived together before marriage is twice as likely to get divorced as the other twin."
Some Couples Face Longer Odds of Staying Married
(Lower divorce rate found for religious couples)
By: Laura Meckler
Date: 24 July 2002
Source: Associated Press (AP) [published in Tampa Tribune / Tampa Bay Online]
URL: http://ap.tbo.com/ap/breaking/MGAGZSIP14D.html
WASHINGTON (AP) - Hoping to avoid divorce? It helps if you're wealthy, religious, college-educated and at least 20 years old when you tie the knot. Couples who don't live together before marriage have a better shot at staying together, as do those whose parents stayed married.
By age 30, three in four women have been married, but many of those unions dissolve. Overall, 43 percent of marriages break up within 15 years, according to a government survey of 11,000 women that offers the most detailed look at cohabitation, marriage and divorce ever produced.
Black women are least likely to marry and most likely to divorce, with more than half splitting within 15 years. Asian marriages are the most stable, with whites and Hispanics in between.
Women are waiting longer to get married than they used to, and after a divorce, they are less likely to remarry than women once were. At the same time, couples are more likely to live together without getting married: Half of U.S. women had lived with a partner by the time they turned 30.
The survey, released Wednesday by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, found that 70 percent of those who lived together for at least five years did eventually walk down the aisle.
But these marriages are also more likely to break up. After 10 years, 40 percent of couples that had lived together before marriage had broken up. That compares with 31 percent of those who did not live together first.
That's partly because people who choose to live together tend to be younger, less religious or have other qualities that put them at risk for divorce, said Catherine Cohan, assistant professor of human development and family studies at Penn State University. But that may not fully explain it, she said.
"Many people enter a cohabiting relationship where the deal is, 'If this doesn't work out we can split up and it's no big loss because we don't have a legal commitment,'" she said. "The commitment is tenuous, and that tenuous commitment might carry over into marriage."
Still, many believe that living together first is an essential testing period for a relationship.
"Most couples who decide to move in together do so because they take marriage very, very seriously. They want to be absolutely sure this is the right person before they say, 'I do' for a lifetime," said Dorian Solot, executive director of the Boston-based Alternatives to Marriage Project.
But she added that expectations better be the same.
"If one of you thinks you're headed for the altar and the other thinks you're just splitting the cost of rent, you're both in for a surprise," she said.
The report, based on 1995 data, found other groups facing a high risk of divorce, including:
-Young people. Nearly half of those who marry under age 18 and 40 percent under age 20 get divorced. Over age 25, it's just 24 percent. The difference is maturity, says Chicago psychologist Kate Wachs.
"A lot of young people focus on right now, and if I'm not happy right now, I should get divorced," said Wachs, author of "Relationships for Dummies." Older people have more life experience and realize "if I hang in there, it will probably get better."
-Non-religious people. Of those who don't affiliate with any religious group, 46 percent were divorced within 10 years.
-Children of divorce. Women whose parents were divorced are significantly more likely to divorce themselves, with 43 percent splitting after 10 years. Among those whose parents stayed together, the divorce rate was just 29 percent.
"You may have had a good model for conflict resolution," Cohan said. Or, she said, parents have taught their kids that "sticking to a marriage is important and divorce is bad."
-Kids. Half of women who had kids before marriage were divorced in 10 years. Nearly as many couples who never had kids also wound up divorced.
Across the board, black women were less likely to marry and more likely to divorce. By age 30, 81 percent of white women have been married, vs. 52 percent of black women.
The report suggests part of the problem is a lack of men in the "marriageable pool," with disproportionate numbers of black men unemployed or incarcerated. People with low-incomes are also less likely to marry, and blacks tend to have lower incomes.
It took You over an Hour to come up with this weak of a response
Where did I say that marriages will last forever ? If You can find it, Please link it .
I certainly hope that You get over what ever it is that turned You into the bitter person You've become . Get well soon .
Im a little disappointed.
B_Skurka
Once again most of your articles are based on statistic, which can be skewed to which ever side you on. For example, base on those articles my parents should be divorced. My mom was 18 and pregnate and my dad was 17 still in high school. They have been together for 40 yrs. For me and my significate other living together is a commitment. However, getting married costs money. I don't want a huge wedding but i do want something more than a vegas style. As for our beliefs in marriage, we both do not believe in divorce. We will get married when the time is right for us, and we choose to live together because we don't need a piece of paper to tell us we are forever committed.